There is an amazing contradiction that exists for most people who use EFT. On one hand we know how powerful it is. On the other hand we don’t use it as much as we could. I have even heard many clients report that there are times when they actively resist tapping. Just last week I […]
We know that when we are trying to make a change but not taking the required action we need to find out what is behind our resistance. We can ask ourselves what the penalties are for trying, for failing, and for succeeding. But sometimes these questions aren’t helpful in discovering why we are resisting taking […]
I am a huge proponent of goal setting. Without having set goals I wouldn’t be as happy and successful as I am. I have created an entire (membership site)[http://www.ruachcenter.com/signup/] dedicated to working toward your goals. But there is a problem with goals: they create expectations. Having expectations isn’t the problem, but they can create a […]
The basics of tapping are very simple. They can be taught in a mere a few minutes. The problem is that just because tapping is simple, doesn’t mean that effective tapping is easy. There is so more to it than knowing the tapping points. In this short audio I explain 3 simple ideas to keep […]
There is a counterbalance to most things in life. Success to failure. Happy to sad. Action to rest. Growth to deterioration. Often when we tap we are working only on the part we see as negative, thereby addressing only half of this balance. Even though the negative side is most obvious and painful there are […]
One of the most powerful things I have done to improve my productivity is spending a few moments every morning tapping on my to-do list. When I clear away all the emotional resistance to the items on my to-do list I find myself easily able to take action throughout the day. I have also found […]
I love the emails that I receive from my readers. (You can always email me directly.) At least once a day I receive some version of the question: “What are the tapping phrases I should use for [insert issues]?” This question is flawed in two ways. First, the words we use are not magic. There […]
Trying again where we have failed in the past is one of the hardest things to do. I was recently faced with wanting to do something that didn’t go well in the past. It wasn’t that it went badly, but it was far from as successful as I would have liked and because of this […]
I need to warn you upfront: This article may come across as a little harsh. I don’t mean to be harsh. I don’t intend to be mean. But this is a really important concept we need to keep in mind. The fact is simple: Our loved ones want us to transform and have a better […]
In the discussion forum of a program I help out with an interesting question was posted this week.
The poster, “Debbie”, told the story of having to deal with a lizard in her house. Debbie is petrified of lizards. When she saw the lizard she started tapping and tapping and tapping. Twenty minutes later she was still suck in the fear.
She didn’t feel one bit better and her question was, “Why did tapping fail?”
This is a really good question and a common experience. To understand what is going we need understand why the emotion showed up in the first place before looking at why EFT didn’t work.