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This article came from an interview I did with Jared Tendler on performance ( Improving Performance with Tapping (Pod #35)). At one point in the interview Jared said, “I don’t believe there is such thing as an emotional decision.” After a brief discussion I agreed with him. Below is a longer explanation than what we got into in the interview of why I think he is right and how we can use this point of view to improve our tapping.

“Never apologize for saying what you feel, because that’s like saying. ‘Sorry for being real’” @livetorque

Sometimes it is very difficult very difficult to share how we feel about something because we know that others are going to react to our feelings in a negative way. When this happens we can feel bad for feeling the way we do and we can feel bad for what we perceive is hurting someone else. Our feelings are our truth. We feel the way we do. We can choose to change these feelings and heal these feelings, but they are what they are. We never have to apologize for how we feel. There are choices we make in response to these feeling that aren’t the best for others and ourselves. We need to be comfortable enough with ourselves to know how we feel because that is our truth in the moment.

One of my favorite terms to introduce to clients is “emotional vampire.” If they haven’t heard the word before they normally chuckle knowing exactly what I am talking about. An emotional vampire is someone who sucks us emotionally dry. Sometimes we know it is coming. Other times we are caught completely off guard. They can suck us dry by belittling our dreams, complaining about how the world is against them, or just their general grumpiness can bring us down. We when are aware of emotional vampires we have an opportunity to care for ourselves better.

It is very easy to miss the progress we are making because we only notice the emotions we are feeling right now. When we take the time to recognize the progress we are making it will help us to be appreciative of our progress and keep us motivated for more.

I am looking for help with emotions. I have seen and looked at a couple of specific emotions (anger, depression, etc.), but my problem is that mine are completely blocked off…I feel NONE. The root cause is from my father telling me as a child that men do not display emotions (cry or laugh were his actual words) and any time I gave any type of an emotional display I was punished…what I am looking for is some help clearing this block. What can I do?

I deal with anger all of the time and because I deal with it so much I don’t know where to start. Where can I begin?

Here is a great little tool when you don’t know where or how to start with any emotion (not just anger). This is also a great tool to use when you are teaching someone to tap on his or her own because it will also create phrase to tap along to. For this reason I have found it best to use this like a work sheet and write out each of the steps.

More and more I am seeing clients with the symptoms of Fibromyalgia. In this interview I spend time with EFT Rue Hass talking about her experience with clients who are experiencing symptoms of fibromyalgia. We talk about causes as well things she has seen in her practice that has been helpful for these symptoms

Where do I start with unbridled fear?

We know the more specific we are when describing the issue, the faster we are going to find relief. Sometimes we think we are being specific when we really are not being as specific as possible.

I have encountered a number of people who are willing to try Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping, but because they don’t get earth shattering results right away they give up. There are many times issues can be cleared up right away, but that is not always the case.

Here is a great example, by Lynne Shaner, of the power of tapping when it is applied in a systematic way and applied to many different aspects of the issues. In this example she uses tapping for the emotions she is feeling, the medical treatment she is receiving, and for the cravings. This is a model we can all learn from.