http://tappingqanda.com Answers to the most common (and uncommon) questions about using the tapping protocols to regain control of your health and well-being. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:00:14 +0000 en hourly 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-your-heartemotional-self-need-to-hear/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-your-heartemotional-self-need-to-hear/#comments Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:00:14 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6483 Our hearts are powerful parts of our system. Our emotional self has lots of information to help us to heal, grow, and live. In this simple tapping script we look at how we can connect, support, and listen to our emotional self. (PLUS tapping phrases for 10 other practitioners)]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-your-heartemotional-self-need-to-hear/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-72-strengthening-romantic-relationships-with-tappingeft-w-alina-frank/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-72-strengthening-romantic-relationships-with-tappingeft-w-alina-frank/#comments Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:00:23 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6655 Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and even both at that exact same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves falling in to the same patterns. Some patterns repeat themselves from relationship to relationship. Other patterns keep repeating themselves over and over again inside of the current relationship. In this interview with Alina Frank we talk about how we can identify these patters and how they were created. We also spend time looking at how we can use tapping/EFT to clear the negative patterns in our current relationships and clear the patterns of having the same type of negative relationship experience again and again. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-72-strengthening-romantic-relationships-with-tappingeft-w-alina-frank/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-30a-being-judgmental-of-others/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-30a-being-judgmental-of-others/#comments Mon, 30 Jan 2012 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6599 Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” I am much more judgment of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are time that I quickly judge others. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they are reminding of something in myself that I don’t like about myself. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work to not judge. Here is a short tap along to help us to be less judgmental of other.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-30a-being-judgmental-of-others/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-a-question-you-have-to-ask-yourself-when-looking-for-what-to-change/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-a-question-you-have-to-ask-yourself-when-looking-for-what-to-change/#comments Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:00:07 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6713 Before I tap with clients we take a close look at what is going on in their lives. We try to find the patterns of life to see want needs to be changed. There is one questions that gets to the core of this. In this video we explore that questions.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-a-question-you-have-to-ask-yourself-when-looking-for-what-to-change/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/talking-emotions-and-tapping-with-kids-w-jondi-whitis/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/talking-emotions-and-tapping-with-kids-w-jondi-whitis/#comments Sat, 28 Jan 2012 11:00:59 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6765 I want to talk to my kids about their emotions and to teach them to tap, but I don't know how to start. Do you have any recommendations? I love tapping with kids, but not everyone is as comfortable as me working with kids. I had a chance to chat with Jondi Whitis of TappingStar about how talk to kids about emotions, tapping, and what adults can do to be better at talking to kids about their emotions. I hope you enjoy this interview!]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/talking-emotions-and-tapping-with-kids-w-jondi-whitis/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/you-have-no-choice-just-give-up-right-now/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/you-have-no-choice-just-give-up-right-now/#comments Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:00:55 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6435 When we say we have no choice then we have no choice. But is doesn't have to be this way. Look at how it is possible to change the way you use the phrase "no choice" and change your outcomes.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/you-have-no-choice-just-give-up-right-now/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-71-using-metaphors-for-healing-w-rue-hass/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-71-using-metaphors-for-healing-w-rue-hass/#comments Wed, 25 Jan 2012 11:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6645 In this interview Rue Hass shares a new techniques that she is using which uses metaphors and having clients draw pictures. It is absolutely brilliant. The technique is simple and elegant. As she was describing it I could see immediately how this could fit into my practice. I know you are going to love this! ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-71-using-metaphors-for-healing-w-rue-hass/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-29a-i-dont-have-to-be-perfect/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-29a-i-dont-have-to-be-perfect/#comments Mon, 23 Jan 2012 11:00:46 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6595 It is great that we spend time naming what we want our life to look like. It is wonderful that we create plans for how we are going to get it. But it is not going to happen the way we planned. It’s just not. There are unexpected things coming. There are details we are going to miss. There are going to be days where we just choose to watch TV instead of doing what we need to do to move forward. And that is ok. I am not saying we don’t need to try, but it is okay if we are not perfect. It is good for us to be easy with ourselves when it comes to not being perfect. If we beat ourselves up too much about not being perfect we will make it so we don’t even want to try. Be easy with yourself. This short tap along audio with help you do just that...Be easy with yourself.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-29a-i-dont-have-to-be-perfect/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-the-emotion-about-the-issue/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-the-emotion-about-the-issue/#comments Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:00:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6714 Sometimes there is resistance to clearing an issue (physical, emotional, and limiting belief) because we are emotionally charged about the issue we are dealing with. We might feel disappointed in ourselves for dealing with this issue, or sad that our body has let us down. In this video we explore how to clear this resistance so clear the core issue is easer.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-the-emotion-about-the-issue/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-intellectual-self-needs-to-hear/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-intellectual-self-needs-to-hear/#comments Fri, 20 Jan 2012 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6480 It is important that we use our intellect without letting it over run the other parts of the system (like heart and gut). He is a great little tapping script to help you connect with your intellectual self, to find the confidence you need, and be open to other parts of your self. (PLUS tapping phrases from 10 other practitioners).]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-intellectual-self-needs-to-hear/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-70-recovering-self-a-healing-manifesto/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-70-recovering-self-a-healing-manifesto/#comments Wed, 18 Jan 2012 11:00:29 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6634 A manifesto is nothing more than a statement of beliefs. This is what I believe about the healing process. This is not about tapping the tool, but what happens when we heal and transform. This is how I think when I am working with clients. What You Will Learn In "Recovering Self - A Healing Manifesto":

• Why you stop the healing process even when you know the steps you should take
• Why others don't want you to heal
• The two categories that all healing falls into
• What you need to know (and what you don't need to know) to heal
• How to stop fighting yourself and start healing

]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-70-recovering-self-a-healing-manifesto/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-brave-when-overwhelmed-or-tired/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-brave-when-overwhelmed-or-tired/#comments Mon, 16 Jan 2012 11:00:41 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6603 There are times when we just don’t want to step up. It could be because we have nothing left or it could be because we don’t think we can. Woody Allen is famously quoted as saying "Ninety percent of life is just showing up." Often times all it takes is up getting moving and started. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Most of the time it doesn’t even have to be good. Just starting is enough. It gets the ball rolling, it get the juices flowing, and it gets us heading in the right direction. Here is a short tap along audio when you are feeling stuck and can't move forward.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-brave-when-overwhelmed-or-tired/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/warning-asking-these-healing-questions-at-your-own-risk/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/warning-asking-these-healing-questions-at-your-own-risk/#comments Fri, 13 Jan 2012 11:00:26 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6552 We all want to change. We all want better for ourselves. We all want health and well being. Otherwise we wouldn't be learning tapping. BUT change work can be very scary. It requires us to level with ourselves about what is working and many times even scarier why things are the way they are. Here is a simple three step process that will clear the way to healing and change, BUT be very careful. These are dangerous and scary questions. Only read this if you are willing to understand why are are stuck.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/warning-asking-these-healing-questions-at-your-own-risk/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-69-what-google-and-zappos-know-about-emotions-that-you-should-know-too-w-paul-zelizer/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-69-what-google-and-zappos-know-about-emotions-that-you-should-know-too-w-paul-zelizer/#comments Wed, 11 Jan 2012 11:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6565 The history of business is a history about how companies and organizations can be more efficient. Much of this work is about how companies and organizations can create an environment where they can get their employees to be more productive. For most of history this has been about automating processes, educating employees, and learning how to empower employees to make better choice. Today, forward thinking companies like Google and Zappos are starting to look beyond people as cogs in the machine that fill specific tasks, but starting to see them as whole people. When companies feed and support the whole person they are finding their employees are happier, healthier, and more productive. Regardless if you work for someone else, if you employ people, or don't work in a traditional job the lessons about emotional intelligence that these companies are learning can be applied directly to your daily life. In this interview I talk to Paul Zeilzer about what he has learned by visiting companies like Google and Zappos and how they can applied to our daily lives to increase our success.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-69-what-google-and-zappos-know-about-emotions-that-you-should-know-too-w-paul-zelizer/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-who-you-are-aka-not-needing-to-fit-in-tap-along/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-who-you-are-aka-not-needing-to-fit-in-tap-along/#comments Mon, 09 Jan 2012 11:00:04 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6587 There are times where it is very hard to be who we want to be because it goes against what others are doing or what others say they expect of us. Here is a short tap along audio to help you feel comfortable inside your own skin and your choices. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-who-you-are-aka-not-needing-to-fit-in-tap-along/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-physical-body-needs-to-hear-you-say/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-physical-body-needs-to-hear-you-say/#comments Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:00:39 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6475 I often lose touch with my physical body. It is such an easy thing to do in the modern world because we don't work with our bodies in the same way. From time to time it is really good to reconnect with your physical body. Here is a great tapping script (plus contribution from 10 other practitioners) on how to tap to reconnect with the physical body.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-physical-body-needs-to-hear-you-say/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-68-therapy-v-discipleship-w-jake-khym/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-68-therapy-v-discipleship-w-jake-khym/#comments Wed, 04 Jan 2012 11:00:35 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6559 Many of the practitioners I know are very spiritual people, but for one reason or another they are not connected to a particular denomination or faith tradition. My friend Jake Khym is a different in that regard. He explicitly does Christian counseling. In this conversation we talk about how and why he transitioned from traditional counseling to Christian counseling and how his work now looks different. Also, we spend a great deal of time talking about what it means to provide instruction and teaching in a discipleship relationship vs. what a therapist would normally do. Even if you are not Christian you are going to find this to be a fascinating conversation. Jake is one of the brights and most articulate people I know. His insights in to how people transform and what people are longing for are insightful and will help you with your healing journey regardless how you approach spiritually, faith, or religion. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-68-therapy-v-discipleship-w-jake-khym/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/my-11-favorite-articles-from-2011-featured-on-tapping-q-and-a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/my-11-favorite-articles-from-2011-featured-on-tapping-q-and-a/#comments Sun, 01 Jan 2012 14:46:21 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6571 Over 150 articles, tap-alongs, and podcasts were added to the site in 2011. Here are some of my favorites. Even if you have read all these before I would encourage you to go back and re-read at leaste on of them. As the Pueblo people say, "When someone is telling a story that we have heard before we don't stop them. The store is the same, but we as listeners are different." There are new lessons in things we have heard before. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/my-11-favorite-articles-from-2011-featured-on-tapping-q-and-a/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/most-important-audio-ever-recorded-for-tapping-q-and-a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/most-important-audio-ever-recorded-for-tapping-q-and-a/#comments Wed, 28 Dec 2011 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6412 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/most-important-audio-ever-recorded-for-tapping-q-and-a/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-26a-saying-i-am-sorry/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-26a-saying-i-am-sorry/#comments Mon, 26 Dec 2011 11:20:43 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5580 Saying "I'm sorry" is one of the hardest things to do. We have to admit that we have been wrong. We have to admit that we let others down. As hard as saying "I'm sorry" is needs to be done. For our own healing, for those we have hurt, and to help repair our relationships. Here is a quick TapAlong audio to help you be able to say "I'm sorry".]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-26a-saying-i-am-sorry/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/better-then-any-new-resolutions-tap-to-get-rid-of-what-isnt-needed/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/better-then-any-new-resolutions-tap-to-get-rid-of-what-isnt-needed/#comments Sun, 25 Dec 2011 11:00:49 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6384 As we prepare for a new year we often make resolution of the all the new things we are going to do to become better people. This year I am taking a new approach. Instead of adding things I am going to get rid of the things that are no longer useful to make room for what I am already doing. Here is what I am doing and how I am using tapping to support this work. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/better-then-any-new-resolutions-tap-to-get-rid-of-what-isnt-needed/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/bonus-pod-27-what-most-trainers-wont-tell-you-about-eft-certification/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/bonus-pod-27-what-most-trainers-wont-tell-you-about-eft-certification/#comments Wed, 21 Dec 2011 11:00:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6366 There has been lots conversation in the last few months about certification, who is doing certification, what is the best certification, and do you even need certification at all. Here is my take on this. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/bonus-pod-27-what-most-trainers-wont-tell-you-about-eft-certification/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-25a-please-see-how-much-i-am-putting-myself-last/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-25a-please-see-how-much-i-am-putting-myself-last/#comments Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:00:39 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5578 Sometimes we can spend so much time and energy taking care of others that we can lose ourselves in the effort. When can get to the place where our identity gets wrapped up in taking care of others. This can be a dangerous way to define ourselves. Here is a short tap along audio to help you see yourself for who you are, not for what you do for others.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-25a-please-see-how-much-i-am-putting-myself-last/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/right-and-wrong-ways-to-tap/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/right-and-wrong-ways-to-tap/#comments Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:00:07 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1700 I respond much better to doing setups on my sore spot(s) than on my Karate Chop point. But I have found that my best response is if I tap on, even thump a bit, on the sore spot(s) rather than rubbing. Is this common or am I very unusual? Also, when I tap on my collar-bone it works much better if I tap on my sore spot as well as my collar bone spot. Is this ok/normal?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/right-and-wrong-ways-to-tap/feed/ 6 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/a-special-request-from-gene-i-need-your-help/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/a-special-request-from-gene-i-need-your-help/#comments Fri, 16 Dec 2011 12:26:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6416 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/a-special-request-from-gene-i-need-your-help/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/when-tapping-the-words-arent-magic-but-they-are-important/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/when-tapping-the-words-arent-magic-but-they-are-important/#comments Wed, 14 Dec 2011 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6328 I am asked all the time, "Do I need to say the phrases out loud?" It is not matter of need. It is a matter of what is helpful. The words are not magic, but they can make all the difference. Check out this very short audio to here how words can transform.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/when-tapping-the-words-arent-magic-but-they-are-important/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-24a-worthy-of-love/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-24a-worthy-of-love/#comments Mon, 12 Dec 2011 11:00:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5417 One of the hardest phrases for my clients to say is, "I love and accept myself." (And it can be really hard from me sometimes as well.) There is a feeling of skin crawling that goes along with that phrase. Being able to love our selves is at the heart of healing and transformation. When we love ourselves we are able to be easy with our selves and be easy with the process of healing. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-24a-worthy-of-love/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapping-to-simplify-life/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapping-to-simplify-life/#comments Sun, 11 Dec 2011 11:00:45 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2951 Simplifying your life can be very refreshing, but it can be hard to get the motivation to start. Here is some simple tapping that you can do to start moving your way to finding your inspiration and motivation to simplify.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapping-to-simplify-life/feed/ 5 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/the-why-is-more-important-than-the-goal/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/the-why-is-more-important-than-the-goal/#comments Wed, 07 Dec 2011 11:00:54 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6327 I had a really interesting conversation with one of my clients this week about goals. It is obviously that having goals are important (multiple studies have proven this), but goals have their limits. If we become to transfixed on the goal with can miss other greatness. If we only focus on the goal itself we can lose our passion. To me there is something much more important than the goal. It is why you want this goal. Listen to how I the "why" of the goal can make all the difference. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/the-why-is-more-important-than-the-goal/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tap-along-you-are-worth-a-bettereasier-life/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tap-along-you-are-worth-a-bettereasier-life/#comments Mon, 05 Dec 2011 11:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5416 Often times we don't feel comfortable making our own life easier. We think: Others have it so hard. We should have to work for a good life. It is only worth something if we struggle for it. I have wasted good chances before I would I get easy now? When we are able to recognize that we are worthy of a better life then we can move to a place where we can start working towards a better life. As long as we think it is something we are not worthy of then we are never going to move forward. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tap-along-you-are-worth-a-bettereasier-life/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/its-gone-for-now-taking-the-final-step/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/its-gone-for-now-taking-the-final-step/#comments Mon, 05 Dec 2011 07:49:34 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3507 I was working with a client this week and we were dealing with the emotional charge around a relationship with a family member. "Jackie" felt like her mother was demeaning her. Jackie's mother always had nice things to say about all of her other adult children, but for some reason she was just really hard on Jackie. After about 15 minutes of tapping on lots of issues Jackie was feeling much better. I had Jackie take a deep breath and a drink of water. I asked her how the issue felt over all. She said, "It feels great. I am not worried about my mother at all. It is all gone." She then paused for just a half of a heartbeat and then added sheepishly, " . . . for now."]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/its-gone-for-now-taking-the-final-step/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-unconditional-love/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-unconditional-love/#comments Mon, 28 Nov 2011 08:03:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5415 It is fun to watch people intact with a new born. Once they get over their fear of dropping the child everyone just lights up. For some reason we are able to see the goodness in the innocents of the child and we can offer unconditional love very easily. The idea for this TapAlong can to me while I was doing an interview Brad Yates. Right after I idea hit me I shared it with Brad and he said that he had done the exact thing with his clients before. Here is a great little TapAlong that I hope will help you to experience unconditional love. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-unconditional-love/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/knowing-good-enough-is-good-enough-or-the-myth-of-excellence/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/knowing-good-enough-is-good-enough-or-the-myth-of-excellence/#comments Wed, 23 Nov 2011 11:00:09 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2156 I find the concept of "just perfect" is very interesting. What does just perfect mean. Often times we believe that just perfect means that is has to be top of the line. It means that it needs to be in the top one percent. It needs to be better than everyone else. But is that really the case?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/knowing-good-enough-is-good-enough-or-the-myth-of-excellence/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-21a-mediocrity-and-greatness/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-21a-mediocrity-and-greatness/#comments Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:00:58 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5336 Mediocrity asks "Why?" with hesitation. Greatness asks "Why not?" with expectation. - @TheSingleWoman One of the biggest (and most important) shifts we can make is moving from asking "why?" to asking "why not?" When we do this we are moving from thinking about the place we are stuck and moving to what we can become. This is a powerful transformation. Even when we are not moving towards something that is new and better by simply looking at what is possible we feel like we are moving forward.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-21a-mediocrity-and-greatness/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/create-v-responsible/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/create-v-responsible/#comments Sun, 20 Nov 2011 11:00:56 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2235 It is very en vogue to talk about how our thoughts create our reality. This can be good when we it encourages us to think about what we want and how it will improve our lives. This can be destructive when we start beating ourselves up over what our life looks like because we have "created" it. In my mind it isn't this black and white. Join me as well look at the difference between creating and being responsible.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/create-v-responsible/feed/ 14 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/there-is-no-such-thing-as-an-emotional-action/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/there-is-no-such-thing-as-an-emotional-action/#comments Wed, 16 Nov 2011 11:00:45 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2426 This article came from an interview I did with Jared Tendler on performance ( Improving Performance with Tapping (Pod #35)). At one point in the interview Jared said, "I don't believe there is such thing as an emotional decision." After a brief discussion I agreed with him. Below is a longer explanation than what we got into in the interview of why I think he is right and how we can use this point of view to improve our tapping.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/there-is-no-such-thing-as-an-emotional-action/feed/ 5 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-20a-trusting-when-doors-close-and-when-we-hear-no/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-20a-trusting-when-doors-close-and-when-we-hear-no/#comments Mon, 14 Nov 2011 11:00:15 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5307 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-20a-trusting-when-doors-close-and-when-we-hear-no/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/bonus-pod-24-what-does-forgiveness-really-mean-includes-tap-along/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/bonus-pod-24-what-does-forgiveness-really-mean-includes-tap-along/#comments Sun, 13 Nov 2011 11:00:32 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6294 It is important to remember that forgiveness is primarily about our health, well being, and healing. We often think it is about the person we need to forgive. To be honest, the person we need to forgive isn't thinking about us and they aren't thinking about how they wronged us. We are the ones who are stuck in this. Here is a quick explanation of how I approach forgiveness (and it inclues a some tapping you can do right now to feel better).]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/bonus-pod-24-what-does-forgiveness-really-mean-includes-tap-along/feed/ 8 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-19a-taking-care-of-yourself-and-not-making-it-a-chore/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-19a-taking-care-of-yourself-and-not-making-it-a-chore/#comments Mon, 07 Nov 2011 11:00:00 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4375 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-19a-taking-care-of-yourself-and-not-making-it-a-chore/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-18a-feeling-the-way-we-feel/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-18a-feeling-the-way-we-feel/#comments Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:00:35 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4371 "Never apologize for saying what you feel, because that's like saying. 'Sorry for being real'" @livetorque Sometimes it is very difficult very difficult to share how we feel about something because we know that others are going to react to our feelings in a negative way. When this happens we can feel bad for feeling the way we do and we can feel bad for what we perceive is hurting someone else. Our feelings are our truth. We feel the way we do. We can choose to change these feelings and heal these feelings, but they are what they are. We never have to apologize for how we feel. There are choices we make in response to these feeling that aren't the best for others and ourselves. We need to be comfortable enough with ourselves to know how we feel because that is our truth in the moment.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-18a-feeling-the-way-we-feel/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-17a-what-would-you-choose-for-today/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-17a-what-would-you-choose-for-today/#comments Mon, 24 Oct 2011 10:00:15 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4332 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-17a-what-would-you-choose-for-today/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-16a-dealing-with-shame-and-blame-for-past-choices/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-16a-dealing-with-shame-and-blame-for-past-choices/#comments Mon, 17 Oct 2011 16:48:13 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4330 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-16a-dealing-with-shame-and-blame-for-past-choices/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-the-lessons-i-learned-while-tapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-the-lessons-i-learned-while-tapping/#comments Sat, 15 Oct 2011 10:00:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6279 When I am tapping I like to write down the insights I have while tapping. Sometimes they are things I already know (and have know forever) and other times they are completely new insights. I might only get one or two of these insights when I sit down to tap, but when I collect them over time I end up with a lots of wisdom that I need to here.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-the-lessons-i-learned-while-tapping/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/deserve-v-worthy/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/deserve-v-worthy/#comments Wed, 12 Oct 2011 12:00:27 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1726 One of the phrases I hear frequently from clients is "I don't deserve..." When we believe we don't deserve something then we are going to prevent ourselves from getting it. It doesn't matter if it is a better job, a loving relationship, or better health. If we don't feel we deserve it then we aren't going to move forward. In this reflection we look at how changing the way we understand the word "deserve" can change the way we heal. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/deserve-v-worthy/feed/ 5 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-15a-accepting-compliments/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-15a-accepting-compliments/#comments Mon, 10 Oct 2011 10:34:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4069 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-15a-accepting-compliments/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-beauty-to-open-your-heart/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-beauty-to-open-your-heart/#comments Mon, 10 Oct 2011 10:00:31 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6267 The world we live in is full of amazingly beautiful things. Many of them we miss (or at least I miss) because we are wrapped up in our todo list. When we take the time to just look at beauty, bathe in beauty, and absorbe beauty it touches us and tunes us into our emotional core. If we combine beauty with tapping we can transform our heart. Here is an easy example...]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-beauty-to-open-your-heart/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-for-inspiration-creativity-by-steve-jobs/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-for-inspiration-creativity-by-steve-jobs/#comments Sat, 08 Oct 2011 10:00:52 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6249 As I am sure you are aware last week Steve Jobs died. He was a galvanizing figure to say the least. He was a thought leader and he demanded a lot of himself (and his employes). I always enjoyed his interviews and speeches because there was always nugests of hope, inspiration and challenge. Here are some of my favorite Steve Jobs quote. Are you looking for a great way to start your day on a creative inspired foot? Then just read these and tap along.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-for-inspiration-creativity-by-steve-jobs/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-lift-your-spirits-this-will-make-you-laugh-make-you-feel-better/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-lift-your-spirits-this-will-make-you-laugh-make-you-feel-better/#comments Wed, 05 Oct 2011 10:30:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5978 Jason Kottke described this as: "Two minutes of laughing. If this doesn't make you smile, YOU'RE A MONSTER!" This is awesome to tap to!]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-lift-your-spirits-this-will-make-you-laugh-make-you-feel-better/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-14a-taking-risks/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-14a-taking-risks/#comments Mon, 03 Oct 2011 10:29:23 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4065 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-14a-taking-risks/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/help-us-out/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/help-us-out/#comments Sat, 01 Oct 2011 10:00:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5962 Take 5 minutes to help us improve Tapping Q and A and you will get $15 worth of downloads and the chance to win one of five one-on-one sessions with Gene.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/help-us-out/feed/ 6 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/guilty-v-regret/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/guilty-v-regret/#comments Wed, 28 Sep 2011 10:00:49 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2306 It is very important to spend time doing self-forgiveness work. If we do not forgive ourselves then we are never going to move forward because we are going to be an emotional prisoner to the past. When we refuse to forgive ourselves then it is like we are reliving the past moment over and over again. There are many steps to this process, but one of the concepts I always talk to clients about is the difference between feeling guilty and regretting what happened.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/guilty-v-regret/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-13a-it-is-a-great-day-to-be-alive/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-13a-it-is-a-great-day-to-be-alive/#comments Mon, 26 Sep 2011 10:24:41 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4061 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-13a-it-is-a-great-day-to-be-alive/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/understanding-what-is-motivating-the-change/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/understanding-what-is-motivating-the-change/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 10:00:50 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1192 There are many reasons we want to make changes in our life. Often, the greater the perceived reward the greater the motivation we have. Many times there’s more than one reason for making a change. Understanding these reasons can be key to our transformation.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/understanding-what-is-motivating-the-change/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-12a-seeking-attention/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-12a-seeking-attention/#comments Mon, 19 Sep 2011 10:20:37 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4056 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-12a-seeking-attention/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/advanced-tapping-technique-training/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/advanced-tapping-technique-training/#comments Thu, 15 Sep 2011 10:00:28 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5868 For the last two months I have putting the finishing touches on a training program I am really proud of. I have taken my favorite advanced tapping techniques and I have put them all in once place. The program has over 10 hours of training and over 15 hours of support audio. Here is a brief list of the main topic: Lesson 1: 13 Foundations to Healing With Tapping That Every Practitioner Should Master Lesson 2: 18 Lessons From 10 Masters of Healing Lesson 3: Hypnotic Patter and Language Lesson 4: Guided Imagery Lesson 5: Parts Work Lesson 6: Age Regression Lesson 7: Time Lines, Forgiveness Work, and Score Boards Oh My! Lesson 8: Meta Models And that doesn't even inclue any of the bonus material. If you are looking to take your tapping to the next level I would encourage you to check this out. Full details. . .]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/advanced-tapping-technique-training/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/bonus-pod-23-how-to-begin-a-tapping-session/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/bonus-pod-23-how-to-begin-a-tapping-session/#comments Wed, 14 Sep 2011 10:00:18 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6005 One of the nice things about tapping is that we can just jump right in to doing work anytime and anywhere. Even though we can just start I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin we can make sure the tapping time is more effective. To start almost every session (either with clients or when I am tapping on my own) I use these five steps.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/bonus-pod-23-how-to-begin-a-tapping-session/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-11a-responding-to-emotional-vampires/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-11a-responding-to-emotional-vampires/#comments Mon, 12 Sep 2011 10:16:05 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4051 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-11a-responding-to-emotional-vampires/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/there-is-so-much-i-dont-know-where-to-begin/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/there-is-so-much-i-dont-know-where-to-begin/#comments Sat, 10 Sep 2011 10:00:43 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=434 I have a lot of issues that I want to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping on, but I don't know where to begin. Should I do the memories chronologically or should I do them is chunks of related issues?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/there-is-so-much-i-dont-know-where-to-begin/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-10a-the-things-that-drive-you-crazy-are-your-greatest-teachers-finding-calmness-within-the-storm/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-10a-the-things-that-drive-you-crazy-are-your-greatest-teachers-finding-calmness-within-the-storm/#comments Mon, 05 Sep 2011 10:10:20 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4046 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-10a-the-things-that-drive-you-crazy-are-your-greatest-teachers-finding-calmness-within-the-storm/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/helping-someone-with-eft-right-now/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/helping-someone-with-eft-right-now/#comments Sat, 03 Sep 2011 10:00:11 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=163 I recently had a chance to do EFT with someone who was having a really bad day. I didn’t have a lot of time to explain what we were doing, but I didn’t know how to start. Because I wasn’t sure how to explain what we were going to do, I didn’t do anything. Any suggestions?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/helping-someone-with-eft-right-now/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/using-unusual-sources-to-find-tapping-scriptstapping-to-move-forward/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/using-unusual-sources-to-find-tapping-scriptstapping-to-move-forward/#comments Wed, 31 Aug 2011 10:00:43 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5736 Sometimes the prefect words to tap along to are found in unexpected places. I love tapping along to poems, song lyrics, and even while looking at heart moving photos. Here is a perfect example of a great place to find tapping words that will help transfrom your heart in to taking action. Here is clips form 40 movies. All the quotes are about seeing the world for what it is and helping you to step into action. If you take the 7min run time of this clip reel and tap along to it, I promise it is going to move you, heal you, and get you motivated to go after the task you need to do today.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/using-unusual-sources-to-find-tapping-scriptstapping-to-move-forward/feed/ 6 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/letting-go-tapalong-9a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/letting-go-tapalong-9a/#comments Mon, 29 Aug 2011 10:10:26 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3691 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/letting-go-tapalong-9a/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/how-to-use-eft-for-something-that-has-never-been-tap-for-before-in-4-easy-steps/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/how-to-use-eft-for-something-that-has-never-been-tap-for-before-in-4-easy-steps/#comments Wed, 24 Aug 2011 10:00:14 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5731 I get questions daily into the site asking, "How do I tap for...?" Most of them are for emotional or physical issues. Even if I have never been asked the question before I am very rarely caught off guard, but from time to time I am asked a question that even makes me scratch my head.No matter the subject or issue here is a simple four step approach to tapping for any issue. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/how-to-use-eft-for-something-that-has-never-been-tap-for-before-in-4-easy-steps/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/looking-at-things-in-new-ways-tapalong-8a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/looking-at-things-in-new-ways-tapalong-8a/#comments Mon, 22 Aug 2011 10:07:21 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3687 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/looking-at-things-in-new-ways-tapalong-8a/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/using-eft-for-serious-medical-issues/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/using-eft-for-serious-medical-issues/#comments Wed, 17 Aug 2011 10:00:34 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=253 I have recently been diagnosed with a rodent ulcer on my chest that will need surgery...or will it? I have asked my Reiki students and colleagues to send distance healing and I wonder whether EFT may also be used? I am unsure what affirmation to use in this instance. Do you have any suggestions on phrases that I should use?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/using-eft-for-serious-medical-issues/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/staying-focused-tapalong-7a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/staying-focused-tapalong-7a/#comments Mon, 15 Aug 2011 10:04:37 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3683 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/staying-focused-tapalong-7a/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/how-one-minute-miracles-can-be-bad-for-the-tapping-community/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/how-one-minute-miracles-can-be-bad-for-the-tapping-community/#comments Sat, 13 Aug 2011 10:00:33 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2663 As wonderful as one-minute/one-session miracles are I think as a Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping community we are doing ourselves a disservice in the ways we talk about these one-minute miracles. I am not saying that there is no room for us to talk about these very real healing experiences, but I think we can get lost in our own enthusiasm and run potential tappers over. (I know I have!) Here are three of the problems I think we have created for ourselves.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/how-one-minute-miracles-can-be-bad-for-the-tapping-community/feed/ 10 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/bonus-pod-22-my-favorite-tapping-tool-about-to-and-as-if/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/bonus-pod-22-my-favorite-tapping-tool-about-to-and-as-if/#comments Wed, 10 Aug 2011 10:00:48 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5848 When I work with clients I like to teach them practical tools so that they are not dependent on our client sessions for progress. I want them to be able to continue to move forward on their. There are two tools that I teach the most because I think they are 1) very easy to do. 2) very versatile and 3) very powerful. (I will share the other tool in a future podcast.) The tool "About, To, and As If" is a great way to deal with emotions around any relationship. The tool can be used for close friends and family or with people you have never met before. It can be used for people you have a contentious relationship with and it can be used with people who you want a better life for. You can do the whole tool in three minutes. or use it for a full hour. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/bonus-pod-22-my-favorite-tapping-tool-about-to-and-as-if/feed/ 6 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/the-crap-i-know-is-better-than-the-crap-i-dont-know-tapalong-6a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/the-crap-i-know-is-better-than-the-crap-i-dont-know-tapalong-6a/#comments Mon, 08 Aug 2011 10:00:56 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3678 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/the-crap-i-know-is-better-than-the-crap-i-dont-know-tapalong-6a/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/keeping-the-long-view/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/keeping-the-long-view/#comments Sat, 06 Aug 2011 10:00:13 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1201 It is very easy to miss the progress we are making because we only notice the emotions we are feeling right now. When we take the time to recognize the progress we are making it will help us to be appreciative of our progress and keep us motivated for more.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/keeping-the-long-view/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/pod-67-creating-a-tapping-community-of-support-w-stephen-w-carter/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/pod-67-creating-a-tapping-community-of-support-w-stephen-w-carter/#comments Wed, 03 Aug 2011 10:00:47 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5748 Let's be honest: Tapping/EFT looks weird when you do it, sounds weird when you explain it, and really is just plain weird. At least once a week as I explaining the work I do and how much I love tapping someone will start to look at me like I have three heads and slowly start creeping away. In any endeavor that we do it is important to have a community of support around us. In these communities we have the opportunity to learn from each other, support each other, and (most importantly) laugh with each other. In the Baltimore area (which is where I live) Steve Carter has done an amazing job in creating just this type of community. The community he has created is from everyone from full time practitioners to people who are just interested in finding way the live health and happier lives. It started very small and over the last few years has not only grown in numbers, but it has also in the quality of support the community provides.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/pod-67-creating-a-tapping-community-of-support-w-stephen-w-carter/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/being-able-to-love-unconditionally-tapalong-5/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/being-able-to-love-unconditionally-tapalong-5/#comments Mon, 01 Aug 2011 09:15:29 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3482 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/08/being-able-to-love-unconditionally-tapalong-5/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/best-of-personal-favorites-most-visited-free-resources-about-tapping-eft/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/best-of-personal-favorites-most-visited-free-resources-about-tapping-eft/#comments Sat, 30 Jul 2011 10:00:45 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2855 Recently I was asked, "I love the fact that you have over 380 free resources on your site, but I don't know where to start. Where is a good place to start?" Here is a list of 16 of my favorite, most popular, and best free resources on tapping and EFT. Make sure you let me know what your favorites are as well!]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/best-of-personal-favorites-most-visited-free-resources-about-tapping-eft/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/changing-how-we-see-ourselves-and-the-world-tapalong-4/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/changing-how-we-see-ourselves-and-the-world-tapalong-4/#comments Fri, 29 Jul 2011 12:13:15 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3479 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/changing-how-we-see-ourselves-and-the-world-tapalong-4/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-66-fear-as-the-root-of-other-issues-wcolleen-flanagan/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-66-fear-as-the-root-of-other-issues-wcolleen-flanagan/#comments Wed, 27 Jul 2011 10:00:03 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5519 From my point of view the opposite of love is not hate, but instead fear. Fear is a very powerful force. It is very primal and is going to over ride most other emotions an thoughts. In this interview I talk with Colleen Flanagan about the many different faces of fear and how it can be at the root of many other issues. We spend a great deal of time talking about 5 distinct types of fear that can be used as lens to understand many of our deeper issues. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-66-fear-as-the-root-of-other-issues-wcolleen-flanagan/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/why-do-i-have-to-tap-how-is-tapping-differnt-from-just-thinking-about-the-issue/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/why-do-i-have-to-tap-how-is-tapping-differnt-from-just-thinking-about-the-issue/#comments Sat, 23 Jul 2011 10:00:06 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=187 Is it necessary to have the intention of releasing or letting go of the negative thought, feeling, or physical pain while tapping? I am trying to understand why fretting, stewing, or worrying about an issue consciously doesn't dissolve the emotions, but tapping while expressing it does.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/why-do-i-have-to-tap-how-is-tapping-differnt-from-just-thinking-about-the-issue/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/dreaming-work-progress-and-transformation-tapalong-1/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/dreaming-work-progress-and-transformation-tapalong-1/#comments Fri, 22 Jul 2011 09:07:05 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3473 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/dreaming-work-progress-and-transformation-tapalong-1/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-6-tapping-for-stress-louise-woods/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-6-tapping-for-stress-louise-woods/#comments Wed, 20 Jul 2011 10:00:21 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5510 Stress is one of the biggest issues of monder life. I think it is talked about so much that some times we tune it out. We need to keep our eye on how stress affects us day to day. Tapping for stress is easy to do and is much like brushing your teeth. You need do a little bit everyday to make lasting change. In this interview I chat with Louise Woods about the impact of stress on the body and some simple things that you can do right now to improve your mood and your health.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-6-tapping-for-stress-louise-woods/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/overwhelmed-by-emotions-preventing-it-from-happening-and-dealing-with-it-if-it-happens/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/overwhelmed-by-emotions-preventing-it-from-happening-and-dealing-with-it-if-it-happens/#comments Sat, 16 Jul 2011 10:00:46 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=261 I have so many emotions and memories coming up all at once that I’m overwhelmed by them. It feels like they are queuing up to get fixed! Yes, I’m glad this stuff comes up and I deal with it as it comes, but issues are tumbling out so fast they are landing on top of each other. I can’t spend all day in the bathroom at work! How do I deal with all these emotions without being so overwhelmed?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/overwhelmed-by-emotions-preventing-it-from-happening-and-dealing-with-it-if-it-happens/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/not-needing-others%e2%80%99-permission-to-change-tapalong-2/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/not-needing-others%e2%80%99-permission-to-change-tapalong-2/#comments Fri, 15 Jul 2011 09:58:00 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3470 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/not-needing-others%e2%80%99-permission-to-change-tapalong-2/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/when-unexpected-things-come-to-mind/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/when-unexpected-things-come-to-mind/#comments Wed, 13 Jul 2011 10:00:44 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=460 When I am tapping all sorts of things come to mind. Sometimes the memories are clearly connected to what I am tapping on. Other times they are thoughts about memories and people that seem to have nothing to do with what I am tapping on. What should I do with these thoughts?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/when-unexpected-things-come-to-mind/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-64-thought-field-therapy-w-joanne-callahan/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-64-thought-field-therapy-w-joanne-callahan/#comments Sat, 09 Jul 2011 10:00:58 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5503 As more time passes few and few people are aware of the roots of tapping as we know it. Emotional Freedom Techniques as presented by Gary Craig build upon the foundations of Thought Field Therapy. In this interview I chat with Joanne Callahan the co-developer of Thought Field Therapy with her husband Roger Callahan. Joanne has many great insights into not only how Thought Field Therapy came to be created and how we can add the tools and techniques of TFT to our daily tapping. We also spend time talking about one of Joanne's passions tapping for trauma (both big and small).]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/pod-64-thought-field-therapy-w-joanne-callahan/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/see-where-we-are-aka-know-what-we-dont-want/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/see-where-we-are-aka-know-what-we-dont-want/#comments Fri, 08 Jul 2011 11:53:22 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3431 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/see-where-we-are-aka-know-what-we-dont-want/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/creative-and-alternate-set-up-statements-generator-for-tapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/creative-and-alternate-set-up-statements-generator-for-tapping/#comments Wed, 06 Jul 2011 10:00:48 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5633 I have been spending a great deal of time thinking about set-up statements lately. Using the phrase "I love and accept myself..." it one of the bigest challenges my clients face. For some reason it just feels icky to say "I love and accept myself". Even though it doesn't feel good, it is good for you. Besides clearing psychological reversal it provides an opportunity to create some gentle reframing moments. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/creative-and-alternate-set-up-statements-generator-for-tapping/feed/ 22 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/self-love-with-brad-yates/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/self-love-with-brad-yates/#comments Sat, 02 Jul 2011 10:00:28 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5493 Doing this interview was particularly special to me. My guest Brad Yates was the person who first introduced me to Tapping/EFT. In this spirited conversation we talk about the importance of self-love, the obstacles to loving ourself, and what we can do with tapping to improve our view of ourselves. I know we talk a lot about self love and self acceptance when it comes to tapping. It is right there in the set up phrase, "I love and accept myself." Even with that being the case it is still one of the issues for my clients (and to be honest for myself) that we struggle with most and it is the topic we are least likely to tap for. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/07/self-love-with-brad-yates/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/bonus-pod-21-how-opening-just-a-crack-to-healing-can-make-all-the-difference-with-efttapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/bonus-pod-21-how-opening-just-a-crack-to-healing-can-make-all-the-difference-with-efttapping/#comments Wed, 29 Jun 2011 10:00:27 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5631 So often we don't begin our healing work because we think the work is too big, it feels too overwhelming, or it just feels impossible. In this podcast we talk about how important it is to just open the door a small crack to the healing process and how that can make all the difference in the world. Sometimes it just takes a small change to create radically different outcomes. We also spend time doing a little tapping for the feeling of overwhelm that comes with knowing we have lot of healing we want and need to do. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/bonus-pod-21-how-opening-just-a-crack-to-healing-can-make-all-the-difference-with-efttapping/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/10-lessons-learned-from-teaching-tapping-in-jail/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/10-lessons-learned-from-teaching-tapping-in-jail/#comments Sat, 25 Jun 2011 10:00:55 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5597 For the last few months I have been blessed to be spending my Monday and Wednesday mornings in the local county jail helping out with the Advanced Anger Management class. It has been an amazing experience. I have learned so much from the class. These lessons are not limited to how to best use or teach tapping, but I have also learned lots of lessons about life. Here are a few of the lessons I have learned from working with the guys.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/10-lessons-learned-from-teaching-tapping-in-jail/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/pod-62-being-honest-with-ourselves-being-in-the-moment-and-other-thoughts-w-jondi-whitis/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/pod-62-being-honest-with-ourselves-being-in-the-moment-and-other-thoughts-w-jondi-whitis/#comments Wed, 22 Jun 2011 10:00:21 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5529

Being able to be honest about where we really are and why that is paramount to healing.

Using where we are to build to where would like to be.

How to stay in the moment (which leads to healthier choices).

Noticing what is happening emotionally.

Tapping is like a hypnotic inductions?

What is the deal with resistance to healing and how can we deal with it.

Why tapping doesn't work when I tap on my own.

How I can move forward and still fill like I am moving backwards.

What to do when I don't know what I want.

What to do when a client doesn't know how to talk about their emotions.

I do I continue to understand that I am enough. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/pod-62-being-honest-with-ourselves-being-in-the-moment-and-other-thoughts-w-jondi-whitis/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/transforming-our-critical-voice-in-to-something-helpful-in-8-easy-steps/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/transforming-our-critical-voice-in-to-something-helpful-in-8-easy-steps/#comments Sat, 18 Jun 2011 10:00:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2111 One of the reasons that I love EFT/tapping is because it is very effective in dealing with our critical voice. The critical voice is nothing more then that little nagging voice that is always pointing out everything we have done wrong, everything we are going to do wrong, and everything we are never going to be. Sometimes this voice is nothing more than a simple annoyance, while other times it can be so crippling that it prevents us from getting out to bed in the morning. Here is an easy 8 step process to transform the critical voice into a very powerful tool for change and transformation.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/transforming-our-critical-voice-in-to-something-helpful-in-8-easy-steps/feed/ 5 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/tapping-for-the-effects-of-cancer-w-deborah-miller-phd/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/tapping-for-the-effects-of-cancer-w-deborah-miller-phd/#comments Thu, 16 Jun 2011 10:00:53 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5444 We all know the montra "Try it on everything!" Deborah Miller took this completely to heart. Today she visits the cancer ward five days a week. She gets the chance to work with the children, the parents, and even the hospital staff. In this interview she talks about her experience, what she has learned, and her hopes for the future. Even if you don't know someone with cancer and you don't think you are ever going to be working in a hospital setting you need to listen to this interview. There are many specific lessons that you can learn that will help your daily tapping practice and how to introduce tapping to to others. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/tapping-for-the-effects-of-cancer-w-deborah-miller-phd/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/good-questions-help-illuminate-the-big-picture-of-a-core-issue/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/good-questions-help-illuminate-the-big-picture-of-a-core-issue/#comments Sat, 11 Jun 2011 10:00:48 +0000 Guest Author http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5359 We are taught when tapping it very import to be as specific as possible. The more specific we are the faster Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/tapping works. Sometimes it is better to take a more global approach to an issue. Instead of moving from the general to the specific we can use the specific to find our way to a much deeper issue. When doing this we see the specific as being a symptom to a much larger issue that we weren't aware of. In this article Vermont based practitioner Jade Barbee shares an experience were he was able to take a very specific issue to find a much deeper issue to do work on. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/good-questions-help-illuminate-the-big-picture-of-a-core-issue/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/layers-of-resistance/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/layers-of-resistance/#comments Wed, 08 Jun 2011 10:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5401 I know that I need to spend time tapping on my issues, but I can't seem to get myself to do it. After the fact (of not tapping) I feel a lot worse because I haven't done the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping that I know works. Is there any way I can get over my block about sitting down to tap?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/layers-of-resistance/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/pod-60-self-acceptance-w-steve-wells/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/pod-60-self-acceptance-w-steve-wells/#comments Sat, 04 Jun 2011 15:10:02 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5378 One of the biggest road blocks for beginning tappers is using the set up phrase "Even though...I love and accept myself." Sometimes we don't believe it. Sometimes it is painful to think of how we don't love and accept ourselves. Because of this we won't spend time tapping. In this interview I chat with Steve Well about the idea of self acceptance. During this conversation I quickly came to realize that Steve and I see acceptance and resistance in the same way. We talk about Steve's own (continuing) journey to self acceptance, how with a simple 30 day process he made major steps forward, and how moving to self acceptance heals many other issues in our lives.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/pod-60-self-acceptance-w-steve-wells/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/is-it-a-big-deal/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/is-it-a-big-deal/#comments Wed, 01 Jun 2011 10:00:03 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5329 I am spending a great deal of time and energy worrying a about a number of issues. This is consuming so much of my energy, but I most of the issue are really no big deal. How do I deal with the fact I am spending so much on something that is no big deal?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/06/is-it-a-big-deal/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/the-hardest-and-most-radical-tapping-you-can-do/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/the-hardest-and-most-radical-tapping-you-can-do/#comments Sat, 28 May 2011 10:00:31 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=453 I was working with a client named “Jane”. Jane really knows Emotional Freedom Techniques(EFT)/Tapping. I said to her, “I have a radical suggestion for you. And you don’t need to do it. But it is a thought. I think you need to surrogately tap for both of them!” Her response was a loooong pause, followed by, “OK, I’m listening. Why would I do that?” ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/the-hardest-and-most-radical-tapping-you-can-do/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/this-is-just-like-my-motherfather/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/this-is-just-like-my-motherfather/#comments Wed, 25 May 2011 10:00:29 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5322 I've noticed a patter in my life that is just like my parents and I can't seem to tap it away. Is there something special I need to do when dealing with issues that I have picked up from my parents? ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/this-is-just-like-my-motherfather/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/reasons-that-stop-us-from-trying/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/reasons-that-stop-us-from-trying/#comments Fri, 20 May 2011 12:09:36 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1203 Often we are ourselves the biggest obstacle to our success. We hold beliefs that prevent us from trying, that prevent us from recognizing the opportunities we have to move forward. “Brian” was in a situation where he wanted to move forward with his business. He came up with a number of brilliant ideas to move his business ahead, but when push came to shove he wouldn’t take the steps he needed to take to move forward.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/reasons-that-stop-us-from-trying/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/stages-of-awareness/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/stages-of-awareness/#comments Wed, 18 May 2011 19:52:30 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=231 In real terms, what does it actually look like when I start making changes in my life with EFT?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/stages-of-awareness/feed/ 8 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/not-using-even-thought-i-and-the-kc-point/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/not-using-even-thought-i-and-the-kc-point/#comments Sat, 14 May 2011 20:24:33 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=265 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/05/not-using-even-thought-i-and-the-kc-point/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/04/when-you-cant-feel-any-emotion-and-when-loved-ones-give-us-limiting-beliefs/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/04/when-you-cant-feel-any-emotion-and-when-loved-ones-give-us-limiting-beliefs/#comments Wed, 27 Apr 2011 13:26:41 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4362 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/04/when-you-cant-feel-any-emotion-and-when-loved-ones-give-us-limiting-beliefs/feed/ 0