http://tappingqanda.com Answers to the most common (and uncommon) questions about using the tapping protocols to regain control of your health and well-being. Thu, 17 May 2012 14:33:27 +0000 en hourly 1 Every week Gene Monterastelli talks to the brightest minds in tapping, EFT, and change work world. Gene Monterastelli clean Gene Monterastelli gene@tappingQandA.com gene@tappingQandA.com (Gene Monterastelli) Gene Monterastelli/TappingQandA.com 2012 Answers to the most common (and uncommon) questions about tapping and EFT. tapping, eft, emotional freedom techniques, gene monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/wp-content/plugins/powerpress/rss_default.jpg http://tappingqanda.com http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/bonus-pod-the-grounding-process/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/bonus-pod-the-grounding-process/#comments Wed, 16 May 2012 10:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7561 This is one of my favorite processes. I teach it in my advanced class as an example of both guided imagery and parts work. I do this process at least one a week myself. The first time I did it I was amazed at the information my system gave me. In this version of it Jessica of theTapping Insiders Club asks me a few questions about the process and then you can just tap right along with it.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/bonus-pod-the-grounding-process/feed/ 0 Centering,Grounding,Jessica Ortner This is one of my favorite processes. I teach it in my advanced class as an example of both guided imagery and parts work. I do this process at least one a week myself. The first time I did it I was amazed at the information my system gave me. This is one of my favorite processes. I teach it in my advanced class as an example of both guided imagery and parts work. I do this process at least one a week myself. The first time I did it I was amazed at the information my system gave me. In this version of it Jessica of theTapping Insiders Club asks me a few questions about the process and then you can just tap right along with it. Gene Monterastelli clean 23:54 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/win-a-free-one-on-one-session/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/win-a-free-one-on-one-session/#comments Tue, 15 May 2012 21:24:29 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7584 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/win-a-free-one-on-one-session/feed/ 55 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/the-minimalist-guide-to-tapping-to-avoid-getting-sick-3-things-you-can-do-every-day-in-90-seconds/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/the-minimalist-guide-to-tapping-to-avoid-getting-sick-3-things-you-can-do-every-day-in-90-seconds/#comments Fri, 11 May 2012 10:00:59 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7558 There are lots of ways to tap for our physical health. Personally, I have a tapping script that is almost 2000 words long that I tap through morning and evening during the cold and flu season (especially when I am traveling and/or spending lots of time with germy students). But it doesn't have to be that complicated. Here are three simple things you can do which will make a huge difference in keeping you healthy. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/the-minimalist-guide-to-tapping-to-avoid-getting-sick-3-things-you-can-do-every-day-in-90-seconds/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/pod-84-tapping-with-your-inner-committee-w-ann-ross/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/pod-84-tapping-with-your-inner-committee-w-ann-ross/#comments Wed, 09 May 2012 14:40:22 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7572 One of the keys to effective EFT and tapping is to be clearly tuned into the issue we want to address. There are lots of creative ways of doing this. In this interview I talk with Ann Ross about how we can use a very simple technique of working with our inner committee to isolate specific issues and transform them quickly. Ann's helpful approach is easy to understand and you will quickly be able to add it to your daily tapping routine.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/pod-84-tapping-with-your-inner-committee-w-ann-ross/feed/ 0 Ann Ross,Inner Child,Parts Work One of the keys to effective EFT and tapping is to be clearly tuned into the issue we want to address. There are lots of creative ways of doing this. In this interview I talk with Ann Ross about how we can use a very simple technique of working with ... One of the keys to effective EFT and tapping is to be clearly tuned into the issue we want to address. There are lots of creative ways of doing this. In this interview I talk with Ann Ross about how we can use a very simple technique of working with our inner committee to isolate specific issues and transform them quickly. Ann's helpful approach is easy to understand and you will quickly be able to add it to your daily tapping routine. Gene Monterastelli clean 33:29 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/5-regrets-of-the-dying-tap-for-them-now-so-you-dont-have-them-later/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/5-regrets-of-the-dying-tap-for-them-now-so-you-dont-have-them-later/#comments Sun, 06 May 2012 11:17:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7551 Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying". With any thought, none of these seem very surprising. They even sound a little clichéd, but clichés are clichés for a reason. Here are the five most reported regrets at death according to Bronnie. I have added tapping scripts for each.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/5-regrets-of-the-dying-tap-for-them-now-so-you-dont-have-them-later/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/pod-83-the-eft-photo-technique-w-marie-holliday/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/pod-83-the-eft-photo-technique-w-marie-holliday/#comments Thu, 03 May 2012 02:02:07 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7538 The key to effective tapping/EFT is being able to tune into the issues that need work. There are many ways of doing this. The most common way is to say phases out loud, but sometimes we don’t know what to say. The issue might be too deep, the memory might be too painful, or we just can't seem to come up with words to describe what is going on. In this podcast I talk to Marie Holliday about a very simple and elegant way to tap for issues called the photo technique. We talk about how easy it is to do, what issues it is great for, and how you can start using it right away. We talk about how you can use photos, icons, x-rays, and really any image to improve are tapping progress. Please take the time to learn about this very powerful technique, it is a great tool to add to your tapping/EFT toolbox. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/pod-83-the-eft-photo-technique-w-marie-holliday/feed/ 2 Family,Friends,Marie Holliday,Photo,Tune In The key to effective tapping/EFT is being able to tune into the issues that need work. There are many ways of doing this. The most common way is to say phases out loud, but sometimes we don’t know what to say. The issue might be too deep, The key to effective tapping/EFT is being able to tune into the issues that need work. There are many ways of doing this. The most common way is to say phases out loud, but sometimes we don’t know what to say. The issue might be too deep, the memory might be too painful, or we just can't seem to come up with words to describe what is going on. In this podcast I talk to Marie Holliday about a very simple and elegant way to tap for issues called the photo technique. We talk about how easy it is to do, what issues it is great for, and how you can start using it right away. We talk about how you can use photos, icons, x-rays, and really any image to improve are tapping progress. Please take the time to learn about this very powerful technique, it is a great tool to add to your tapping/EFT toolbox. Gene Monterastelli clean 27:13 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/win-the-tapping-solution-dvd-for-free/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/win-the-tapping-solution-dvd-for-free/#comments Tue, 01 May 2012 10:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7534 Tap Easy is hosting a give away for a free copy the DVD of The Tapping Solution. The Tapping Solution is a ...]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/05/win-the-tapping-solution-dvd-for-free/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/tap-like-donald-trump-5-ways-to-love-yourself/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/tap-like-donald-trump-5-ways-to-love-yourself/#comments Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:00:27 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7458 There is no question that Donald Trump's public persona is one in which he thinks a great deal of about himself. I don't think it is a bad thing. Sometimes I wonder if he is over-compensating for something else by talking such a big game about himself and his success. More than likely that is just my own insecurities being projected ontohis braggadociosness. When it comes to seeking out teachers and role models for healing, growth, and self love Donald Trump probably isn't in the first six hundred thousand names that would come to mind. Regardless what you think of "The Donald" he reminds us of some great lessons that we can learn about loving ourselves. Here are few of my favorites.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/tap-like-donald-trump-5-ways-to-love-yourself/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-82-how-parents-can-tap-for-their-children-and-themselves-w-carol-tuttle/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-82-how-parents-can-tap-for-their-children-and-themselves-w-carol-tuttle/#comments Wed, 25 Apr 2012 19:15:54 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7480 Often when parents come to tapping they are looking for something to fix or change their children. In reality, when we are surrogate tapping for other people we are making a transformation in ourselves that creates space for others to change. In this interview Carol Tuttle and I talk about how parents can use tapping for their children, themselves, and to transform all the relationships within the family. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-82-how-parents-can-tap-for-their-children-and-themselves-w-carol-tuttle/feed/ 0 Carol Tuttle,Children,Family,Parent Often when parents come to tapping they are looking for something to fix or change their children. In reality, when we are surrogate tapping for other people we are making a transformation in ourselves that creates space for others to change. - Often when parents come to tapping they are looking for something to fix or change their children. In reality, when we are surrogate tapping for other people we are making a transformation in ourselves that creates space for others to change. In this interview Carol Tuttle and I talk about how parents can use tapping for their children, themselves, and to transform all the relationships within the family. Gene Monterastelli clean 30:40 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/what-we-can-learn-about-healing-and-growth-from-the-actor-who-said-i-am-not-taking-that-feedback-to-her-friends-and-family/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/what-we-can-learn-about-healing-and-growth-from-the-actor-who-said-i-am-not-taking-that-feedback-to-her-friends-and-family/#comments Sat, 21 Apr 2012 12:19:08 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7453 Riki Lindhome is a delightful actor, comedian, and musician. She has a podcast called Making It in which she interviews actors, directors, stand-up comedians, and casting directors about how their careers have unfolded and what lessons they have learned along the way. In addition to being a great interviewer Riki share stories from her own journey. There is a choice she made very early on in her career in how she dealt with the comments from the people in her life that I find very inspired. Not only was it helpful for her as an actor, it is helpful for all of us in our healing process. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/what-we-can-learn-about-healing-and-growth-from-the-actor-who-said-i-am-not-taking-that-feedback-to-her-friends-and-family/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-81-celebration-law-of-attraction-and-a-new-way-to-understand-it-w-carol-look/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-81-celebration-law-of-attraction-and-a-new-way-to-understand-it-w-carol-look/#comments Thu, 19 Apr 2012 00:00:13 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7441 I think giving thanks and celebrating big and small success is a really important thing to do. In addition to that it is important to recognize the gifts inside of the moments that don't work out as planned. Last December I was lucky enough to be a guest on Carol Look’s radio program. We talk about what we mean by celebration, thanks giving, abundance, create v responsibility, and we do a lot of tapping on how we can get clear so that we can make the necessary choices in our lives to move towards making choice to add to our lives the greatness we are worthy of. Side note: Personally, I am a little uncomfortable with a lot of the law of attraction language and conversation. Some it borders on the woo-woo, and some of it is downright ridiculous. I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I do think I have a unique point of view, which we examine in this interview. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-81-celebration-law-of-attraction-and-a-new-way-to-understand-it-w-carol-look/feed/ 0 Abundance,Carol Look,Create,Law of Attraction,Responsible I think giving thanks and celebrating big and small success is a really important thing to do. In addition to that it is important to recognize the gifts inside of the moments that don't work out as planned. - I think giving thanks and celebrating big and small success is a really important thing to do. In addition to that it is important to recognize the gifts inside of the moments that don't work out as planned. Last December I was lucky enough to be a guest on Carol Look’s radio program. We talk about what we mean by celebration, thanks giving, abundance, create v responsibility, and we do a lot of tapping on how we can get clear so that we can make the necessary choices in our lives to move towards making choice to add to our lives the greatness we are worthy of. Side note: Personally, I am a little uncomfortable with a lot of the law of attraction language and conversation. Some it borders on the woo-woo, and some of it is downright ridiculous. I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I do think I have a unique point of view, which we examine in this interview. Gene Monterastelli clean 1:01:54 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-80-using-sounds-and-tones-while-tapping-w-andy-bryce/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-80-using-sounds-and-tones-while-tapping-w-andy-bryce/#comments Thu, 12 Apr 2012 17:55:03 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7430 For tapping to be successful we need to tune into the issue at hand. There are many tools and techniques to do this. In this interview I talk to Andy Bryce about how we can use making sounds as a way of tuning into issues and emotions. By using sounds we can find ways to describe emotions as well as tune into emotions without having to go point by point through the entire issue, which can at time be painful. This is a very simple approach and an easy tool to add to your tapping tool box.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-80-using-sounds-and-tones-while-tapping-w-andy-bryce/feed/ 1 Andy Bryce,Sound,Tune In For tapping to be successful we need to tune into the issue at hand. There are many tools and techniques to do this. In this interview I talk to Andy Bryce about how we can use making sounds as a way of tuning into issues and emotions. For tapping to be successful we need to tune into the issue at hand. There are many tools and techniques to do this. In this interview I talk to Andy Bryce about how we can use making sounds as a way of tuning into issues and emotions. By using sounds we can find ways to describe emotions as well as tune into emotions without having to go point by point through the entire issue, which can at time be painful. This is a very simple approach and an easy tool to add to your tapping tool box. Gene Monterastelli clean 27:43 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-79-reversals-and-resistance-w-lindsay-kenny/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-79-reversals-and-resistance-w-lindsay-kenny/#comments Thu, 05 Apr 2012 00:50:13 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7422 Reversal, psychological reversal, and polarity reversal are all terms are thrown around a lot when working with tapping. These can be caused by our thoughts, what we put in our body, and the electronic devices that surround us. It doesn't really matter what you call them, if they are present then tapping isn't going to work very well (if at all). In this interview I talk with Lindsay Kenny two major types of reversals and what you can do to correct them. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/04/pod-79-reversals-and-resistance-w-lindsay-kenny/feed/ 1 Psychological Reversal,Resistance Reversal, psychological reversal, and polarity reversal are all terms are thrown around a lot when working with tapping. These can be caused by our thoughts, what we put in our body, and the electronic devices that surround us. - Reversal, psychological reversal, and polarity reversal are all terms are thrown around a lot when working with tapping. These can be caused by our thoughts, what we put in our body, and the electronic devices that surround us. It doesn't really matter what you call them, if they are present then tapping isn't going to work very well (if at all). In this interview I talk with Lindsay Kenny two major types of reversals and what you can do to correct them. Gene Monterastelli clean 46:52 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tap-like-dr-phil-5-ways-to-cut-through-bs/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tap-like-dr-phil-5-ways-to-cut-through-bs/#comments Fri, 30 Mar 2012 10:10:58 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6962 I head Dr. Phil interviewed once and he was talking about how an interview was badgering him about the fact all he does is repeat common sense. He response was, "Thank you very much!" It is very easy to see Dr. Phil as a clown and a caricature of himself, but I think we dismiss him at our own peril. I have always been very impressed with what he has to say and even more impressed with his ability to cut to the chase. We can make things too complicated (or at least I do). Here are 5 things that Dr. Phil can teach us about tapping and caring for ourselves.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tap-like-dr-phil-5-ways-to-cut-through-bs/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-did-you-know-you-should-wash-your-hands-before-and-after-you-tap/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-did-you-know-you-should-wash-your-hands-before-and-after-you-tap/#comments Sun, 25 Mar 2012 10:00:13 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7352 Did you know there is good reasons to wash your hands before and after you tap. It will keep you healthier and surprisingly it will also help you release emotions.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-did-you-know-you-should-wash-your-hands-before-and-after-you-tap/feed/ 0 Health Did you know there is good reasons to wash your hands before and after you tap. It will keep you healthier and surprisingly it will also help you release emotions. Did you know there is good reasons to wash your hands before and after you tap. It will keep you healthier and surprisingly it will also help you release emotions. Gene Monterastelli clean 3:36 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/dont-do-these-10-plus-1-things-if-you-want-to-fail-at-teaching-tapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/dont-do-these-10-plus-1-things-if-you-want-to-fail-at-teaching-tapping/#comments Fri, 23 Mar 2012 10:00:25 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6666 I love tapping. I want everyone to love tapping. I have seen its power in my own life and I want to share that with others. When I was very new to tapping I made many mistakes when I was sharing tapping, mostly running people over with my enthusiasm. Here are 10 things you can do when you are teaching tapping to help you communicate better, create open-mindedness in those you are sharing with, and a comfort for yourself regardless how it is received.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/dont-do-these-10-plus-1-things-if-you-want-to-fail-at-teaching-tapping/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/pod-78-being-addicted-to-our-emotions-w-stacey-vornbrock/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/pod-78-being-addicted-to-our-emotions-w-stacey-vornbrock/#comments Wed, 21 Mar 2012 09:45:00 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7374 Emotions are more than just something we feel. When we experience an emotion there many things that happen at a biochemical and cellular level. In this interview with Stacey Vornbrock we talk about what happens on a cellular level when we feel emotions, how we can become addicted to these emotions, and what we can do to break this addiction. By recognizing the fact that an emotion can be something we are addicted to it gives us a new way to tap for things.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/pod-78-being-addicted-to-our-emotions-w-stacey-vornbrock/feed/ 3 Adiction,Emotions,Stacey Vornbrock Emotions are more than just something we feel. When we experience an emotion there many things that happen at a biochemical and cellular level. In this interview with Stacey Vornbrock we talk about what happens on a cellular level when we feel emotions, Emotions are more than just something we feel. When we experience an emotion there many things that happen at a biochemical and cellular level. In this interview with Stacey Vornbrock we talk about what happens on a cellular level when we feel emotions, how we can become addicted to these emotions, and what we can do to break this addiction. By recognizing the fact that an emotion can be something we are addicted to it gives us a new way to tap for things. Gene Monterastelli clean 30:47 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-how-to-avoid-being-sick-with-tapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-how-to-avoid-being-sick-with-tapping/#comments Sun, 18 Mar 2012 10:00:09 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7351 Did you know there is a simple tapping routine you can do in just under 60 seconds a day? I as simple as tapping to the following video.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-how-to-avoid-being-sick-with-tapping/feed/ 0 Health Did you know there is a simple tapping routine you can do in just under 60 seconds a day? I as simple as tapping to the following video. Did you know there is a simple tapping routine you can do in just under 60 seconds a day? I as simple as tapping to the following video. Gene Monterastelli clean 5:48 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/5-things-you-must-know-before-tapping-with-children-and-teens/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/5-things-you-must-know-before-tapping-with-children-and-teens/#comments Fri, 16 Mar 2012 10:00:30 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6661 Tapping with kids can be a very rewarding experience. In many cases kids take to tapping much faster than adults because they are more willing to try new things and aren’t hung up on why something is working. They just want to feel better. Here are five things to keep in mind when teaching kids to tap. (Note: All five lessons below are hard won. I know them to be true because I have done the opposite of all 5 at one point.)]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/5-things-you-must-know-before-tapping-with-children-and-teens/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/pod-77-understanding-and-tapping-for-shame-w-rhona-clews/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/pod-77-understanding-and-tapping-for-shame-w-rhona-clews/#comments Wed, 14 Mar 2012 10:00:07 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7313 One of the most powerful and crippling emotions we can experience is the emotion of shame. It is a very inward point self defeating emotion. In this interview I talk to Rhona Clews about the power of shame, how it is created, how it is toxic in our live, and how we can use tapping to clear it out.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/pod-77-understanding-and-tapping-for-shame-w-rhona-clews/feed/ 1 Premium Member,Rhona Clews,Shame,TapAlong Member One of the most powerful and crippling emotions we can experience is the emotion of shame. It is a very inward point self defeating emotion. In this interview I talk to Rhona Clews about the power of shame, how it is created, One of the most powerful and crippling emotions we can experience is the emotion of shame. It is a very inward point self defeating emotion. In this interview I talk to Rhona Clews about the power of shame, how it is created, how it is toxic in our live, and how we can use tapping to clear it out. Gene Monterastelli clean 35:15 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapalong-36a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapalong-36a/#comments Mon, 12 Mar 2012 10:00:45 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7279 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapalong-36a/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-5-steps-i-take-to-start-a-tapping-session-that-only-takes-45-seconds/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-5-steps-i-take-to-start-a-tapping-session-that-only-takes-45-seconds/#comments Sun, 11 Mar 2012 10:00:37 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7244 One of the really nice things about tapping is that we can jump right into dealing with an issue. There is no complicated set up or time consuming relaxation process needed before we begin. Even though we can jump right in there are few things we can do to insure we get the most out of our tapping time. It is helpful to be grounded in the moment, to be grounded in our physical bodies, open to healing, and aware of the healing power of our system. Here is a quick 5 step process that does all of these things. Once you have it mastered it is the prefect way to start a tapping session.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-5-steps-i-take-to-start-a-tapping-session-that-only-takes-45-seconds/feed/ 3 Premium Member,Sessions Member,Starting,Where to start One of the really nice things about tapping is that we can jump right into dealing with an issue. There is no complicated set up or time consuming relaxation process needed before we begin. - Even though we can jump right in there are few things we c... One of the really nice things about tapping is that we can jump right into dealing with an issue. There is no complicated set up or time consuming relaxation process needed before we begin. Even though we can jump right in there are few things we can do to insure we get the most out of our tapping time. It is helpful to be grounded in the moment, to be grounded in our physical bodies, open to healing, and aware of the healing power of our system. Here is a quick 5 step process that does all of these things. Once you have it mastered it is the prefect way to start a tapping session. Gene Monterastelli clean 7:48 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/5-surprising-reasons-you-havent-reached-your-goals-plus-5-tapping-scripts/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/5-surprising-reasons-you-havent-reached-your-goals-plus-5-tapping-scripts/#comments Fri, 09 Mar 2012 11:10:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6956 Question: I have a great list of goals. I know what I want. I know why I want them. I just can’t seem to move forward. How can I use tapping to move toward my goals? I spend a great deal of time working with clients helping them to take action to move forward towards their goals. In most cases my clients have some sense of where they would like to take their life and even know the steps that need to happen. For some reason they are just stuck. They look at their to-do list which is the same list they made the day before with nothing crossed off. I have found that there are 5 common reasons that we don't take the actions we know we want to improve our lives. As you read through them you will notice that you might be experiencing one, all five, or somewhere in between. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/5-surprising-reasons-you-havent-reached-your-goals-plus-5-tapping-scripts/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/scientific-and-psychological-research-about-tapping-and-eft-w-dawson-church/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/scientific-and-psychological-research-about-tapping-and-eft-w-dawson-church/#comments Tue, 06 Mar 2012 03:00:38 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7217 I don’t know about you, but I constantly find myself answering questions about EFT and tapping. It is great that we can lean on personal experience (and the experience of those who we work with) when sharing about tapping, but in many cases this is not enough. It is good to have structured scientific studies that are peer reviewed to build the wall of proof that so many are looking for. To that end I have something that will help you in two parts to answer people who are looking for scientific proof about tapping and EFT. First, I have an interview with Dawson Church, Ph.D about completed research studies, on-going research studies, and planned research studies. Second, I have summery of many of the resent studies make it easier for you to talk about them.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/scientific-and-psychological-research-about-tapping-and-eft-w-dawson-church/feed/ 1 Practitioner,Research,Science I don’t know about you, but I constantly find myself answering questions about EFT and tapping. It is great that we can lean on personal experience (and the experience of those who we work with) when sharing about tapping, I don’t know about you, but I constantly find myself answering questions about EFT and tapping. It is great that we can lean on personal experience (and the experience of those who we work with) when sharing about tapping, but in many cases this is not enough. It is good to have structured scientific studies that are peer reviewed to build the wall of proof that so many are looking for. To that end I have something that will help you in two parts to answer people who are looking for scientific proof about tapping and EFT. First, I have an interview with Dawson Church, Ph.D about completed research studies, on-going research studies, and planned research studies. Second, I have summery of many of the resent studies make it easier for you to talk about them. Gene Monterastelli clean 41:28 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapalong-35a-feeling-bad-because-we-started-tapping-so-late/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapalong-35a-feeling-bad-because-we-started-tapping-so-late/#comments Mon, 05 Mar 2012 11:00:14 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7250 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapalong-35a-feeling-bad-because-we-started-tapping-so-late/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-the-rake/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-the-rake/#comments Sun, 04 Mar 2012 11:00:42 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7240 This is one of my favorite tools of all time. I took pieces of a number of different tools and put them in one quick little tapping routine that only takes 20 seconds to do. It is prefect to calm you in a moment of stress, help you to clear your head, or get you relaxed as you are heading to bed.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/tapping-ninja-video-the-rake/feed/ 4 Premium Member,Relaxation,Sessions Member,Stress This is one of my favorite tools of all time. I took pieces of a number of different tools and put them in one quick little tapping routine that only takes 20 seconds to do. - It is prefect to calm you in a moment of stress, This is one of my favorite tools of all time. I took pieces of a number of different tools and put them in one quick little tapping routine that only takes 20 seconds to do. It is prefect to calm you in a moment of stress, help you to clear your head, or get you relaxed as you are heading to bed. Gene Monterastelli clean 3:07 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/things-your-inner-child-needs-to-hear-you-say/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/things-your-inner-child-needs-to-hear-you-say/#comments Fri, 02 Mar 2012 11:00:44 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6496 We are not just who we are now, but a sum total of all that has happened. There are parts of us that are still clinging to the past as if it is still happening. Many times when working with clients we find our way to working with the younger-self. Much of who we are today is informed by our younger years. BUT it is not who we are in totality and our past in not written in stone in such a way that it can never be changed. I have found it very helpful to speak the my younger self. It is important to let it know that it is allowed to grow, change, and absorb the wisdom of my older self. This is how I tap for and with my inner child.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/03/things-your-inner-child-needs-to-hear-you-say/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/bonus-pod-28-tapping-tool-to-ensure-you-dont-bring-stress-home-from-work/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/bonus-pod-28-tapping-tool-to-ensure-you-dont-bring-stress-home-from-work/#comments Tue, 28 Feb 2012 15:24:16 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=7197 Our working lives can be stressful. The last thing we want to do is bring that stress and worry home. Here is a great little tapping technique that you can do everyday before you leave work that will only take a few minutes. It will insure that you leave the stress and worry of the workday behind so you can go home and enjoy the rest of your evening.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/bonus-pod-28-tapping-tool-to-ensure-you-dont-bring-stress-home-from-work/feed/ 1 Stress,Work Our working lives can be stressful. The last thing we want to do is bring that stress and worry home. Here is a great little tapping technique that you can do everyday before you leave work that will only take a few minutes. Our working lives can be stressful. The last thing we want to do is bring that stress and worry home. Here is a great little tapping technique that you can do everyday before you leave work that will only take a few minutes. It will insure that you leave the stress and worry of the workday behind so you can go home and enjoy the rest of your evening. Gene Monterastelli clean 3:43 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-34a-i-should-have-known-better-forgiving-myself/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-34a-i-should-have-known-better-forgiving-myself/#comments Mon, 27 Feb 2012 11:00:14 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6913 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-34a-i-should-have-known-better-forgiving-myself/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-tapping-with-photos-to-get-to-root-issues-quickly/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-tapping-with-photos-to-get-to-root-issues-quickly/#comments Sun, 26 Feb 2012 11:00:41 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6767 The key to tapping is finding a way to emotionally tune into the issue at hand. It's cliche, but a picture really is worth a thousand words and they can be used to find emotions and root causes quickly (and with out words). In this short video I show you how to use photos in the healing process.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-tapping-with-photos-to-get-to-root-issues-quickly/feed/ 3 Photo,Premium Member,TapAlong Member,Tune In,Video The key to tapping is finding a way to emotionally tune into the issue at hand. It's cliche, but a picture really is worth a thousand words and they can be used to find emotions and root causes quickly (and with out words). The key to tapping is finding a way to emotionally tune into the issue at hand. It's cliche, but a picture really is worth a thousand words and they can be used to find emotions and root causes quickly (and with out words). In this short video I show you how to use photos in the healing process. Gene Monterastelli clean 3:44 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/issues-to-be-tapped-on-someday/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/issues-to-be-tapped-on-someday/#comments Fri, 24 Feb 2012 11:00:15 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6657 There are lots of issues we know we need to tap on, but for some reason just can't bring ourselves to do it. It might seem scary, overwhelming, we might know where to begin, or there is just some unknown force that is holding us back from doing the work we know we want today. Here is a very simple tool to get after those issues with out having to diving in too deeply]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/issues-to-be-tapped-on-someday/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-75-the-power-of-identity-w-brad-yates/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-75-the-power-of-identity-w-brad-yates/#comments Wed, 22 Feb 2012 11:00:58 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6652 I want you to image you are meeting someone for the very first time. They know nothing about you. You have to describe yourself to the another person, but you can only use one word descriptions. What words would you use? Father, wife, grandson, teacher, loving, hopeful... It is amazing the power that labels we give ourselves can have over us in how we act. In this interview I chat with Brad Yates about the positive and negative identities we create for ourselves and how we can use tapping to transform the way we see and define ourselves.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-75-the-power-of-identity-w-brad-yates/feed/ 1 Brad Yates,Identity,Premium Member,Self Esteem,TapAlong Member I want you to image you are meeting someone for the very first time. They know nothing about you. You have to describe yourself to the another person, but you can only use one word descriptions. - What words would you use? - Father, wife, grandson, I want you to image you are meeting someone for the very first time. They know nothing about you. You have to describe yourself to the another person, but you can only use one word descriptions. What words would you use? Father, wife, grandson, teacher, loving, hopeful... It is amazing the power that labels we give ourselves can have over us in how we act. In this interview I chat with Brad Yates about the positive and negative identities we create for ourselves and how we can use tapping to transform the way we see and define ourselves. Gene Monterastelli clean 34:33 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-33a-need-to-learn-a-lesson-forgiving-self/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-33a-need-to-learn-a-lesson-forgiving-self/#comments Mon, 20 Feb 2012 11:00:09 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6912 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-33a-need-to-learn-a-lesson-forgiving-self/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-creating-space-for-healing-w-tapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-creating-space-for-healing-w-tapping/#comments Sun, 19 Feb 2012 11:00:29 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6772 Sometimes we won't tap because we think an issue is too big. Or we feel like we can't make enough progress to make worth our while. When tapping sometimes doing just a little is enough to make a big difference. In this short video we look at how easy it is to make space for the healing process by doing a little tapping.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-creating-space-for-healing-w-tapping/feed/ 1 Premium Member,Resistance,TapAlong Member,Video Sometimes we won't tap because we think an issue is too big. Or we feel like we can't make enough progress to make worth our while. When tapping sometimes doing just a little is enough to make a big difference. - Sometimes we won't tap because we think an issue is too big. Or we feel like we can't make enough progress to make worth our while. When tapping sometimes doing just a little is enough to make a big difference. In this short video we look at how easy it is to make space for the healing process by doing a little tapping. Gene Monterastelli clean 4:28 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-we-need-to-hear-from-and-to-say-to-our-spiritual-self/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-we-need-to-hear-from-and-to-say-to-our-spiritual-self/#comments Fri, 17 Feb 2012 11:00:21 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6488 It is very easy to get discounted from the still small voice of our spirit. It never leaves us, it never stops communicating with us, but it has a tendency to be still and small so we miss it. Here is a tapping script to help you reconnect with your spirit (PLUS tapping phrases for 10 other practitioners)]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-we-need-to-hear-from-and-to-say-to-our-spiritual-self/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-74-care-for-those-who-care-for-others-w-ron-ball/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-74-care-for-those-who-care-for-others-w-ron-ball/#comments Wed, 15 Feb 2012 11:00:57 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6641 There are times when we find ourselves caring for someone who is going through something major, be it a physical or mental issue. We want nothing but the best for our loved one, but we can end up spreading ourselves too thin. We give everything we have to the point that we are harming ourselves. It is important that when we are caring for others that we take the time to also care for ourselves. If we don't take care of ourselves we can't care for others. In this interview I talk to Ron Ball as he shares his personal story of what it is like providing long term care for a loved one and what he learned about taking care of himself during that time.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-74-care-for-those-who-care-for-others-w-ron-ball/feed/ 0 Care,Caregiver,Family,Premium Member,Ron Ball,TapAlong Member There are times when we find ourselves caring for someone who is going through something major, be it a physical or mental issue. We want nothing but the best for our loved one, but we can end up spreading ourselves too thin. There are times when we find ourselves caring for someone who is going through something major, be it a physical or mental issue. We want nothing but the best for our loved one, but we can end up spreading ourselves too thin. We give everything we have to the point that we are harming ourselves. It is important that when we are caring for others that we take the time to also care for ourselves. If we don't take care of ourselves we can't care for others. In this interview I talk to Ron Ball as he shares his personal story of what it is like providing long term care for a loved one and what he learned about taking care of himself during that time. Gene Monterastelli clean 24:51 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-32a-i-need-to-suffer-forgiving-self/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-32a-i-need-to-suffer-forgiving-self/#comments Mon, 13 Feb 2012 11:00:05 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6911 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-32a-i-need-to-suffer-forgiving-self/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-tapping-before-eating/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-tapping-before-eating/#comments Sun, 12 Feb 2012 11:00:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6774 Tapping can be used in lots of different way. One way we can use it is to tap before we eat to insure better digestion, more enjoyment of the meal, and a great sense of the giftedness. In this short video I explain how to use tapping before we eat.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-tapping-before-eating/feed/ 2 Eating,Food,Premium Member,TapAlong Member,Video Tapping can be used in lots of different way. One way we can use it is to tap before we eat to insure better digestion, more enjoyment of the meal, and a great sense of the giftedness. In this short video I explain how to use tapping before we eat. Tapping can be used in lots of different way. One way we can use it is to tap before we eat to insure better digestion, more enjoyment of the meal, and a great sense of the giftedness. In this short video I explain how to use tapping before we eat. Gene Monterastelli clean 4:08 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/the-great-visualization-hoax-a-4-step-tapping-plan-of-attack/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/the-great-visualization-hoax-a-4-step-tapping-plan-of-attack/#comments Fri, 10 Feb 2012 11:10:58 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6951 Question: I would like to use visualization and law of attraction principles with my tapping. How do I do that? [NOTE: I have a feeling this article is going to ruffle a few feathers. I would love your feed back on this. The science sited in this is far from definitive, but very interesting. Please let me know your thoughts.] The tool that is sited the most in the LOA community is visualization. "If you can see it, you can be it." Personally, I have always been a little skeptical. I fall much more in line with the line Tony Robins is credited as says about visualization. "If you sit all day in your living room thinking about what you want something will show up. It will be the repo man!"]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/the-great-visualization-hoax-a-4-step-tapping-plan-of-attack/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/why-i-hate-the-word-manifest/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/why-i-hate-the-word-manifest/#comments Wed, 08 Feb 2012 11:00:38 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6946 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/why-i-hate-the-word-manifest/feed/ 1 Choice,Manifest,Premium Member,Responsible,TapAlong Member There is lots of talk about this idea of the things we manifest in our lives (both positive and negative). I personally think we give too much credit to manifest and attract and no where near enough credit to choice and response. There is lots of talk about this idea of the things we manifest in our lives (both positive and negative). I personally think we give too much credit to manifest and attract and no where near enough credit to choice and response. In this conversation with my friend Jondi Whitis we talk about what we really have control over, what we create, and what we are responsible for. This is just one point of view on the topic, and I would love to hear your thoughts. Subscribe to the podcast in iTunes What are your thoughts on create, manifest, and responsible? I would love to hear your thoughts. Click here to add your own thoughts and comments or read what others have to say. I would really love to hear what you think! Gene Monterastelli clean 44:50 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-31a-it-doesnt-always-have-to-be-hard/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-31a-it-doesnt-always-have-to-be-hard/#comments Mon, 06 Feb 2012 11:00:02 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6910 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapalong-31a-it-doesnt-always-have-to-be-hard/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-knock-out-the-last-little-bit-w-the-collarbone-eye-roll/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-knock-out-the-last-little-bit-w-the-collarbone-eye-roll/#comments Sun, 05 Feb 2012 11:00:11 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6776 Sometimes when we are tapping we will get our SUDs level down to less than a two. Sometimes it is even to the point where it just feels like a shadow of the issue. When this happens there is a very simple way to knock out that last little bit. In this video I explain how to take care of this.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/tapping-ninja-video-knock-out-the-last-little-bit-w-the-collarbone-eye-roll/feed/ 2 Premium Member,SUDs,TapAlong Member,Tune In,Video Sometimes when we are tapping we will get our SUDs level down to less than a two. Sometimes it is even to the point where it just feels like a shadow of the issue. When this happens there is a very simple way to knock out that last little bit. Sometimes when we are tapping we will get our SUDs level down to less than a two. Sometimes it is even to the point where it just feels like a shadow of the issue. When this happens there is a very simple way to knock out that last little bit. In this video I explain how to take care of this. Gene Monterastelli clean 3:28 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-your-heartemotional-self-need-to-hear/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-your-heartemotional-self-need-to-hear/#comments Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:00:14 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6483 Our hearts are powerful parts of our system. Our emotional self has lots of information to help us to heal, grow, and live. In this simple tapping script we look at how we can connect, support, and listen to our emotional self. (PLUS tapping phrases for 10 other practitioners)]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/things-your-heartemotional-self-need-to-hear/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-72-strengthening-romantic-relationships-with-tappingeft-w-alina-frank/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-72-strengthening-romantic-relationships-with-tappingeft-w-alina-frank/#comments Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:00:23 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6655 Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and even both at that exact same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves falling in to the same patterns. Some patterns repeat themselves from relationship to relationship. Other patterns keep repeating themselves over and over again inside of the current relationship. In this interview with Alina Frank we talk about how we can identify these patters and how they were created. We also spend time looking at how we can use tapping/EFT to clear the negative patterns in our current relationships and clear the patterns of having the same type of negative relationship experience again and again. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/02/pod-72-strengthening-romantic-relationships-with-tappingeft-w-alina-frank/feed/ 0 Alina Frank,Love,Premium Member,Relationships,TapAlong Member Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and even both at that exact same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves fa... Our romantic relationships take up a great deal of our time and energy. They can bring us great joy and great frustration (and even both at that exact same time). Even though each relationship is a new and different experience we can find ourselves falling in to the same patterns. Some patterns repeat themselves from relationship to relationship. Other patterns keep repeating themselves over and over again inside of the current relationship. In this interview with Alina Frank we talk about how we can identify these patters and how they were created. We also spend time looking at how we can use tapping/EFT to clear the negative patterns in our current relationships and clear the patterns of having the same type of negative relationship experience again and again. Gene Monterastelli clean 32:46 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-30a-being-judgmental-of-others/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-30a-being-judgmental-of-others/#comments Mon, 30 Jan 2012 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6599 Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” I am much more judgment of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are time that I quickly judge others. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they are reminding of something in myself that I don’t like about myself. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work to not judge. Here is a short tap along to help us to be less judgmental of other.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-30a-being-judgmental-of-others/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-a-question-you-have-to-ask-yourself-when-looking-for-what-to-change/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-a-question-you-have-to-ask-yourself-when-looking-for-what-to-change/#comments Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:00:07 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6713 Before I tap with clients we take a close look at what is going on in their lives. We try to find the patterns of life to see want needs to be changed. There is one questions that gets to the core of this. In this video we explore that questions.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-a-question-you-have-to-ask-yourself-when-looking-for-what-to-change/feed/ 3 Goals,Premium Member,Resistance,Tapping Ninja,Video Before I tap with clients we take a close look at what is going on in their lives. We try to find the patterns of life to see want needs to be changed. There is one questions that gets to the core of this. In this video we explore that questions. Before I tap with clients we take a close look at what is going on in their lives. We try to find the patterns of life to see want needs to be changed. There is one questions that gets to the core of this. In this video we explore that questions. Gene Monterastelli clean 4:28 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/talking-emotions-and-tapping-with-kids-w-jondi-whitis/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/talking-emotions-and-tapping-with-kids-w-jondi-whitis/#comments Sat, 28 Jan 2012 11:00:59 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6765 I want to talk to my kids about their emotions and to teach them to tap, but I don't know how to start. Do you have any recommendations? I love tapping with kids, but not everyone is as comfortable as me working with kids. I had a chance to chat with Jondi Whitis of TappingStar about how talk to kids about emotions, tapping, and what adults can do to be better at talking to kids about their emotions. I hope you enjoy this interview!]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/talking-emotions-and-tapping-with-kids-w-jondi-whitis/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/you-have-no-choice-just-give-up-right-now/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/you-have-no-choice-just-give-up-right-now/#comments Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:00:55 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6435 When we say we have no choice then we have no choice. But is doesn't have to be this way. Look at how it is possible to change the way you use the phrase "no choice" and change your outcomes.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/you-have-no-choice-just-give-up-right-now/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-71-using-metaphors-for-healing-w-rue-hass/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-71-using-metaphors-for-healing-w-rue-hass/#comments Wed, 25 Jan 2012 11:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6645 In this interview Rue Hass shares a new techniques that she is using which uses metaphors and having clients draw pictures. It is absolutely brilliant. The technique is simple and elegant. As she was describing it I could see immediately how this could fit into my practice. I know you are going to love this! ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-71-using-metaphors-for-healing-w-rue-hass/feed/ 1 Drawing,Metaphor,Practitioner,Premium Member,Rue Hass,TapAlong Member,Tune In In this interview Rue Hass shares a new techniques that she is using which uses metaphors and having clients draw pictures. It is absolutely brilliant. The technique is simple and elegant. As she was describing it I could see immediately how this c... In this interview Rue Hass shares a new techniques that she is using which uses metaphors and having clients draw pictures. It is absolutely brilliant. The technique is simple and elegant. As she was describing it I could see immediately how this could fit into my practice. I know you are going to love this! Gene Monterastelli clean 42:12 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-29a-i-dont-have-to-be-perfect/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-29a-i-dont-have-to-be-perfect/#comments Mon, 23 Jan 2012 11:00:46 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6595 It is great that we spend time naming what we want our life to look like. It is wonderful that we create plans for how we are going to get it. But it is not going to happen the way we planned. It’s just not. There are unexpected things coming. There are details we are going to miss. There are going to be days where we just choose to watch TV instead of doing what we need to do to move forward. And that is ok. I am not saying we don’t need to try, but it is okay if we are not perfect. It is good for us to be easy with ourselves when it comes to not being perfect. If we beat ourselves up too much about not being perfect we will make it so we don’t even want to try. Be easy with yourself. This short tap along audio with help you do just that...Be easy with yourself.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapalong-29a-i-dont-have-to-be-perfect/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-the-emotion-about-the-issue/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-the-emotion-about-the-issue/#comments Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:00:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6714 Sometimes there is resistance to clearing an issue (physical, emotional, and limiting belief) because we are emotionally charged about the issue we are dealing with. We might feel disappointed in ourselves for dealing with this issue, or sad that our body has let us down. In this video we explore how to clear this resistance so clear the core issue is easer.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/tapping-ninja-video-the-emotion-about-the-issue/feed/ 4 Premium Member,Resistance,Tapping Ninja,Video Sometimes there is resistance to clearing an issue (physical, emotional, and limiting belief) because we are emotionally charged about the issue we are dealing with. We might feel disappointed in ourselves for dealing with this issue, Sometimes there is resistance to clearing an issue (physical, emotional, and limiting belief) because we are emotionally charged about the issue we are dealing with. We might feel disappointed in ourselves for dealing with this issue, or sad that our body has let us down. In this video we explore how to clear this resistance so clear the core issue is easer. Gene Monterastelli clean 4:53 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-intellectual-self-needs-to-hear/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-intellectual-self-needs-to-hear/#comments Fri, 20 Jan 2012 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6480 It is important that we use our intellect without letting it over run the other parts of the system (like heart and gut). He is a great little tapping script to help you connect with your intellectual self, to find the confidence you need, and be open to other parts of your self. (PLUS tapping phrases from 10 other practitioners).]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-intellectual-self-needs-to-hear/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-70-recovering-self-a-healing-manifesto/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-70-recovering-self-a-healing-manifesto/#comments Wed, 18 Jan 2012 11:00:29 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6634 A manifesto is nothing more than a statement of beliefs. This is what I believe about the healing process. This is not about tapping the tool, but what happens when we heal and transform. This is how I think when I am working with clients. What You Will Learn In "Recovering Self - A Healing Manifesto":

• Why you stop the healing process even when you know the steps you should take
• Why others don't want you to heal
• The two categories that all healing falls into
• What you need to know (and what you don't need to know) to heal
• How to stop fighting yourself and start healing

]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-70-recovering-self-a-healing-manifesto/feed/ 0 Advanced Techniques,Practitioner A manifesto is nothing more than a statement of beliefs. This is what I believe about the healing process. This is not about tapping the tool, but what happens when we heal and transform. This is how I think when I am working with clients. A manifesto is nothing more than a statement of beliefs. This is what I believe about the healing process. This is not about tapping the tool, but what happens when we heal and transform. This is how I think when I am working with clients. What You Will Learn In "Recovering Self - A Healing Manifesto": Why you stop the healing process even when you know the steps you should take Why others don't want you to heal The two categories that all healing falls into What you need to know (and what you don't need to know) to heal How to stop fighting yourself and start healing Gene Monterastelli clean 1:14:57 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-brave-when-overwhelmed-or-tired/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-brave-when-overwhelmed-or-tired/#comments Mon, 16 Jan 2012 11:00:41 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6603 There are times when we just don’t want to step up. It could be because we have nothing left or it could be because we don’t think we can. Woody Allen is famously quoted as saying "Ninety percent of life is just showing up." Often times all it takes is up getting moving and started. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Most of the time it doesn’t even have to be good. Just starting is enough. It gets the ball rolling, it get the juices flowing, and it gets us heading in the right direction. Here is a short tap along audio when you are feeling stuck and can't move forward.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-brave-when-overwhelmed-or-tired/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/warning-asking-these-healing-questions-at-your-own-risk/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/warning-asking-these-healing-questions-at-your-own-risk/#comments Fri, 13 Jan 2012 11:00:26 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6552 We all want to change. We all want better for ourselves. We all want health and well being. Otherwise we wouldn't be learning tapping. BUT change work can be very scary. It requires us to level with ourselves about what is working and many times even scarier why things are the way they are. Here is a simple three step process that will clear the way to healing and change, BUT be very careful. These are dangerous and scary questions. Only read this if you are willing to understand why are are stuck.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/warning-asking-these-healing-questions-at-your-own-risk/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-69-what-google-and-zappos-know-about-emotions-that-you-should-know-too-w-paul-zelizer/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-69-what-google-and-zappos-know-about-emotions-that-you-should-know-too-w-paul-zelizer/#comments Wed, 11 Jan 2012 11:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6565 The history of business is a history about how companies and organizations can be more efficient. Much of this work is about how companies and organizations can create an environment where they can get their employees to be more productive. For most of history this has been about automating processes, educating employees, and learning how to empower employees to make better choice. Today, forward thinking companies like Google and Zappos are starting to look beyond people as cogs in the machine that fill specific tasks, but starting to see them as whole people. When companies feed and support the whole person they are finding their employees are happier, healthier, and more productive. Regardless if you work for someone else, if you employ people, or don't work in a traditional job the lessons about emotional intelligence that these companies are learning can be applied directly to your daily life. In this interview I talk to Paul Zeilzer about what he has learned by visiting companies like Google and Zappos and how they can applied to our daily lives to increase our success.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-69-what-google-and-zappos-know-about-emotions-that-you-should-know-too-w-paul-zelizer/feed/ 1 Business,Creative,Energy,Paul Zelizer,Premium Member,Success,Work,Workplace The history of business is a history about how companies and organizations can be more efficient. Much of this work is about how companies and organizations can create an environment where they can get their employees to be more productive. The history of business is a history about how companies and organizations can be more efficient. Much of this work is about how companies and organizations can create an environment where they can get their employees to be more productive. For most of history this has been about automating processes, educating employees, and learning how to empower employees to make better choice. Today, forward thinking companies like Google and Zappos are starting to look beyond people as cogs in the machine that fill specific tasks, but starting to see them as whole people. When companies feed and support the whole person they are finding their employees are happier, healthier, and more productive. Regardless if you work for someone else, if you employ people, or don't work in a traditional job the lessons about emotional intelligence that these companies are learning can be applied directly to your daily life. In this interview I talk to Paul Zeilzer about what he has learned by visiting companies like Google and Zappos and how they can applied to our daily lives to increase our success. Gene Monterastelli clean 34:44 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-who-you-are-aka-not-needing-to-fit-in-tap-along/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-who-you-are-aka-not-needing-to-fit-in-tap-along/#comments Mon, 09 Jan 2012 11:00:04 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6587 There are times where it is very hard to be who we want to be because it goes against what others are doing or what others say they expect of us. Here is a short tap along audio to help you feel comfortable inside your own skin and your choices. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/being-who-you-are-aka-not-needing-to-fit-in-tap-along/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-physical-body-needs-to-hear-you-say/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-physical-body-needs-to-hear-you-say/#comments Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:00:39 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6475 I often lose touch with my physical body. It is such an easy thing to do in the modern world because we don't work with our bodies in the same way. From time to time it is really good to reconnect with your physical body. Here is a great tapping script (plus contribution from 10 other practitioners) on how to tap to reconnect with the physical body.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/things-your-physical-body-needs-to-hear-you-say/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-68-therapy-v-discipleship-w-jake-khym/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-68-therapy-v-discipleship-w-jake-khym/#comments Wed, 04 Jan 2012 11:00:35 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6559 Many of the practitioners I know are very spiritual people, but for one reason or another they are not connected to a particular denomination or faith tradition. My friend Jake Khym is a different in that regard. He explicitly does Christian counseling. In this conversation we talk about how and why he transitioned from traditional counseling to Christian counseling and how his work now looks different. Also, we spend a great deal of time talking about what it means to provide instruction and teaching in a discipleship relationship vs. what a therapist would normally do. Even if you are not Christian you are going to find this to be a fascinating conversation. Jake is one of the brights and most articulate people I know. His insights in to how people transform and what people are longing for are insightful and will help you with your healing journey regardless how you approach spiritually, faith, or religion. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/pod-68-therapy-v-discipleship-w-jake-khym/feed/ 0 Christian,Discipleship,Faith,Jake Khym,Practitioner,Premium Member Many of the practitioners I know are very spiritual people, but for one reason or another they are not connected to a particular denomination or faith tradition. My friend Jake Khym is a different in that regard. Many of the practitioners I know are very spiritual people, but for one reason or another they are not connected to a particular denomination or faith tradition. My friend Jake Khym is a different in that regard. He explicitly does Christian counseling. In this conversation we talk about how and why he transitioned from traditional counseling to Christian counseling and how his work now looks different. Also, we spend a great deal of time talking about what it means to provide instruction and teaching in a discipleship relationship vs. what a therapist would normally do. Even if you are not Christian you are going to find this to be a fascinating conversation. Jake is one of the brights and most articulate people I know. His insights in to how people transform and what people are longing for are insightful and will help you with your healing journey regardless how you approach spiritually, faith, or religion. Gene Monterastelli clean 36:13 http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/my-11-favorite-articles-from-2011-featured-on-tapping-q-and-a/ http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/my-11-favorite-articles-from-2011-featured-on-tapping-q-and-a/#comments Sun, 01 Jan 2012 14:46:21 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6571 Over 150 articles, tap-alongs, and podcasts were added to the site in 2011. Here are some of my favorites. Even if you have read all these before I would encourage you to go back and re-read at leaste on of them. As the Pueblo people say, "When someone is telling a story that we have heard before we don't stop them. The store is the same, but we as listeners are different." There are new lessons in things we have heard before. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2012/01/my-11-favorite-articles-from-2011-featured-on-tapping-q-and-a/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-26a-saying-i-am-sorry/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-26a-saying-i-am-sorry/#comments Mon, 26 Dec 2011 11:20:43 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5580 Saying "I'm sorry" is one of the hardest things to do. We have to admit that we have been wrong. We have to admit that we let others down. As hard as saying "I'm sorry" is needs to be done. For our own healing, for those we have hurt, and to help repair our relationships. Here is a quick TapAlong audio to help you be able to say "I'm sorry".]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-26a-saying-i-am-sorry/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/better-then-any-new-resolutions-tap-to-get-rid-of-what-isnt-needed/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/better-then-any-new-resolutions-tap-to-get-rid-of-what-isnt-needed/#comments Sun, 25 Dec 2011 11:00:49 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6384 As we prepare for a new year we often make resolution of the all the new things we are going to do to become better people. This year I am taking a new approach. Instead of adding things I am going to get rid of the things that are no longer useful to make room for what I am already doing. Here is what I am doing and how I am using tapping to support this work. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/better-then-any-new-resolutions-tap-to-get-rid-of-what-isnt-needed/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/bonus-pod-27-what-most-trainers-wont-tell-you-about-eft-certification/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/bonus-pod-27-what-most-trainers-wont-tell-you-about-eft-certification/#comments Wed, 21 Dec 2011 11:00:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6366 There has been lots conversation in the last few months about certification, who is doing certification, what is the best certification, and do you even need certification at all. Here is my take on this. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/bonus-pod-27-what-most-trainers-wont-tell-you-about-eft-certification/feed/ 3 Certification,Practitioner,Training There has been lots conversation in the last few months about certification, who is doing certification, what is the best certification, and do you even need certification at all. - Here is my take on this. There has been lots conversation in the last few months about certification, who is doing certification, what is the best certification, and do you even need certification at all. Here is my take on this. Gene Monterastelli clean 12:42 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-25a-please-see-how-much-i-am-putting-myself-last/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-25a-please-see-how-much-i-am-putting-myself-last/#comments Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:00:39 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5578 Sometimes we can spend so much time and energy taking care of others that we can lose ourselves in the effort. When can get to the place where our identity gets wrapped up in taking care of others. This can be a dangerous way to define ourselves. Here is a short tap along audio to help you see yourself for who you are, not for what you do for others.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-25a-please-see-how-much-i-am-putting-myself-last/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/right-and-wrong-ways-to-tap/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/right-and-wrong-ways-to-tap/#comments Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:00:07 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1700 I respond much better to doing setups on my sore spot(s) than on my Karate Chop point. But I have found that my best response is if I tap on, even thump a bit, on the sore spot(s) rather than rubbing. Is this common or am I very unusual? Also, when I tap on my collar-bone it works much better if I tap on my sore spot as well as my collar bone spot. Is this ok/normal?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/right-and-wrong-ways-to-tap/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/a-special-request-from-gene-i-need-your-help/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/a-special-request-from-gene-i-need-your-help/#comments Fri, 16 Dec 2011 12:26:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6416 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/a-special-request-from-gene-i-need-your-help/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/when-tapping-the-words-arent-magic-but-they-are-important/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/when-tapping-the-words-arent-magic-but-they-are-important/#comments Wed, 14 Dec 2011 11:00:10 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6328 I am asked all the time, "Do I need to say the phrases out loud?" It is not matter of need. It is a matter of what is helpful. The words are not magic, but they can make all the difference. Check out this very short audio to here how words can transform.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/when-tapping-the-words-arent-magic-but-they-are-important/feed/ 3 Don't Know What Words To Say,Phrases,Premium Member I am asked all the time, "Do I need to say the phrases out loud?" - It is not matter of need. It is a matter of what is helpful. The words are not magic, but they can make all the difference. Check out this very short audio to here how words can tr... I am asked all the time, "Do I need to say the phrases out loud?" It is not matter of need. It is a matter of what is helpful. The words are not magic, but they can make all the difference. Check out this very short audio to here how words can transform. Gene Monterastelli clean 4:56 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-24a-worthy-of-love/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-24a-worthy-of-love/#comments Mon, 12 Dec 2011 11:00:12 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5417 One of the hardest phrases for my clients to say is, "I love and accept myself." (And it can be really hard from me sometimes as well.) There is a feeling of skin crawling that goes along with that phrase. Being able to love our selves is at the heart of healing and transformation. When we love ourselves we are able to be easy with our selves and be easy with the process of healing. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapalong-24a-worthy-of-love/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapping-to-simplify-life/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapping-to-simplify-life/#comments Sun, 11 Dec 2011 11:00:45 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2951 Simplifying your life can be very refreshing, but it can be hard to get the motivation to start. Here is some simple tapping that you can do to start moving your way to finding your inspiration and motivation to simplify.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tapping-to-simplify-life/feed/ 5 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/the-why-is-more-important-than-the-goal/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/the-why-is-more-important-than-the-goal/#comments Wed, 07 Dec 2011 11:00:54 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6327 I had a really interesting conversation with one of my clients this week about goals. It is obviously that having goals are important (multiple studies have proven this), but goals have their limits. If we become to transfixed on the goal with can miss other greatness. If we only focus on the goal itself we can lose our passion. To me there is something much more important than the goal. It is why you want this goal. Listen to how I the "why" of the goal can make all the difference. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/the-why-is-more-important-than-the-goal/feed/ 2 Future,Goals,Motivation,Premium Member I had a really interesting conversation with one of my clients this week about goals. It is obviously that having goals are important (multiple studies have proven this), but goals have their limits. If we become to transfixed on the goal with can mi... I had a really interesting conversation with one of my clients this week about goals. It is obviously that having goals are important (multiple studies have proven this), but goals have their limits. If we become to transfixed on the goal with can miss other greatness. If we only focus on the goal itself we can lose our passion. To me there is something much more important than the goal. It is why you want this goal. Listen to how I the "why" of the goal can make all the difference. Gene Monterastelli clean 8:45 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tap-along-you-are-worth-a-bettereasier-life/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tap-along-you-are-worth-a-bettereasier-life/#comments Mon, 05 Dec 2011 11:00:19 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5416 Often times we don't feel comfortable making our own life easier. We think: Others have it so hard. We should have to work for a good life. It is only worth something if we struggle for it. I have wasted good chances before I would I get easy now? When we are able to recognize that we are worthy of a better life then we can move to a place where we can start working towards a better life. As long as we think it is something we are not worthy of then we are never going to move forward. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/tap-along-you-are-worth-a-bettereasier-life/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/its-gone-for-now-taking-the-final-step/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/its-gone-for-now-taking-the-final-step/#comments Mon, 05 Dec 2011 07:49:34 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=3507 I was working with a client this week and we were dealing with the emotional charge around a relationship with a family member. "Jackie" felt like her mother was demeaning her. Jackie's mother always had nice things to say about all of her other adult children, but for some reason she was just really hard on Jackie. After about 15 minutes of tapping on lots of issues Jackie was feeling much better. I had Jackie take a deep breath and a drink of water. I asked her how the issue felt over all. She said, "It feels great. I am not worried about my mother at all. It is all gone." She then paused for just a half of a heartbeat and then added sheepishly, " . . . for now."]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/12/its-gone-for-now-taking-the-final-step/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-unconditional-love/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-unconditional-love/#comments Mon, 28 Nov 2011 08:03:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5415 It is fun to watch people intact with a new born. Once they get over their fear of dropping the child everyone just lights up. For some reason we are able to see the goodness in the innocents of the child and we can offer unconditional love very easily. The idea for this TapAlong can to me while I was doing an interview Brad Yates. Right after I idea hit me I shared it with Brad and he said that he had done the exact thing with his clients before. Here is a great little TapAlong that I hope will help you to experience unconditional love. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-unconditional-love/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/knowing-good-enough-is-good-enough-or-the-myth-of-excellence/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/knowing-good-enough-is-good-enough-or-the-myth-of-excellence/#comments Wed, 23 Nov 2011 11:00:09 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2156 I find the concept of "just perfect" is very interesting. What does just perfect mean. Often times we believe that just perfect means that is has to be top of the line. It means that it needs to be in the top one percent. It needs to be better than everyone else. But is that really the case?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/knowing-good-enough-is-good-enough-or-the-myth-of-excellence/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-21a-mediocrity-and-greatness/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-21a-mediocrity-and-greatness/#comments Mon, 21 Nov 2011 11:00:58 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5336 Mediocrity asks "Why?" with hesitation. Greatness asks "Why not?" with expectation. - @TheSingleWoman One of the biggest (and most important) shifts we can make is moving from asking "why?" to asking "why not?" When we do this we are moving from thinking about the place we are stuck and moving to what we can become. This is a powerful transformation. Even when we are not moving towards something that is new and better by simply looking at what is possible we feel like we are moving forward.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-21a-mediocrity-and-greatness/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/create-v-responsible/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/create-v-responsible/#comments Sun, 20 Nov 2011 11:00:56 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2235 It is very en vogue to talk about how our thoughts create our reality. This can be good when we it encourages us to think about what we want and how it will improve our lives. This can be destructive when we start beating ourselves up over what our life looks like because we have "created" it. In my mind it isn't this black and white. Join me as well look at the difference between creating and being responsible.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/create-v-responsible/feed/ 12 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/there-is-no-such-thing-as-an-emotional-action/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/there-is-no-such-thing-as-an-emotional-action/#comments Wed, 16 Nov 2011 11:00:45 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2426 This article came from an interview I did with Jared Tendler on performance ( Improving Performance with Tapping (Pod #35)). At one point in the interview Jared said, "I don't believe there is such thing as an emotional decision." After a brief discussion I agreed with him. Below is a longer explanation than what we got into in the interview of why I think he is right and how we can use this point of view to improve our tapping.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/there-is-no-such-thing-as-an-emotional-action/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-20a-trusting-when-doors-close-and-when-we-hear-no/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-20a-trusting-when-doors-close-and-when-we-hear-no/#comments Mon, 14 Nov 2011 11:00:15 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5307 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-20a-trusting-when-doors-close-and-when-we-hear-no/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/bonus-pod-24-what-does-forgiveness-really-mean-includes-tap-along/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/bonus-pod-24-what-does-forgiveness-really-mean-includes-tap-along/#comments Sun, 13 Nov 2011 11:00:32 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6294 It is important to remember that forgiveness is primarily about our health, well being, and healing. We often think it is about the person we need to forgive. To be honest, the person we need to forgive isn't thinking about us and they aren't thinking about how they wronged us. We are the ones who are stuck in this. Here is a quick explanation of how I approach forgiveness (and it inclues a some tapping you can do right now to feel better).]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/bonus-pod-24-what-does-forgiveness-really-mean-includes-tap-along/feed/ 8 Forgive,Gold Star It is important to remember that forgiveness is primarily about our health, well being, and healing. We often think it is about the person we need to forgive. To be honest, the person we need to forgive isn't thinking about us and they aren't thinkin... It is important to remember that forgiveness is primarily about our health, well being, and healing. We often think it is about the person we need to forgive. To be honest, the person we need to forgive isn't thinking about us and they aren't thinking about how they wronged us. We are the ones who are stuck in this. Here is a quick explanation of how I approach forgiveness (and it inclues a some tapping you can do right now to feel better). Gene Monterastelli clean 14:32 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-19a-taking-care-of-yourself-and-not-making-it-a-chore/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-19a-taking-care-of-yourself-and-not-making-it-a-chore/#comments Mon, 07 Nov 2011 11:00:00 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4375 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/11/tapalong-19a-taking-care-of-yourself-and-not-making-it-a-chore/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-18a-feeling-the-way-we-feel/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-18a-feeling-the-way-we-feel/#comments Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:00:35 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4371 "Never apologize for saying what you feel, because that's like saying. 'Sorry for being real'" @livetorque Sometimes it is very difficult very difficult to share how we feel about something because we know that others are going to react to our feelings in a negative way. When this happens we can feel bad for feeling the way we do and we can feel bad for what we perceive is hurting someone else. Our feelings are our truth. We feel the way we do. We can choose to change these feelings and heal these feelings, but they are what they are. We never have to apologize for how we feel. There are choices we make in response to these feeling that aren't the best for others and ourselves. We need to be comfortable enough with ourselves to know how we feel because that is our truth in the moment.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-18a-feeling-the-way-we-feel/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-17a-what-would-you-choose-for-today/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-17a-what-would-you-choose-for-today/#comments Mon, 24 Oct 2011 10:00:15 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4332 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-17a-what-would-you-choose-for-today/feed/ 3 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-16a-dealing-with-shame-and-blame-for-past-choices/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-16a-dealing-with-shame-and-blame-for-past-choices/#comments Mon, 17 Oct 2011 16:48:13 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4330 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-16a-dealing-with-shame-and-blame-for-past-choices/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-the-lessons-i-learned-while-tapping/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-the-lessons-i-learned-while-tapping/#comments Sat, 15 Oct 2011 10:00:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6279 When I am tapping I like to write down the insights I have while tapping. Sometimes they are things I already know (and have know forever) and other times they are completely new insights. I might only get one or two of these insights when I sit down to tap, but when I collect them over time I end up with a lots of wisdom that I need to here.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-the-lessons-i-learned-while-tapping/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/deserve-v-worthy/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/deserve-v-worthy/#comments Wed, 12 Oct 2011 12:00:27 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1726 One of the phrases I hear frequently from clients is "I don't deserve..." When we believe we don't deserve something then we are going to prevent ourselves from getting it. It doesn't matter if it is a better job, a loving relationship, or better health. If we don't feel we deserve it then we aren't going to move forward. In this reflection we look at how changing the way we understand the word "deserve" can change the way we heal. ]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/deserve-v-worthy/feed/ 5 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-15a-accepting-compliments/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-15a-accepting-compliments/#comments Mon, 10 Oct 2011 10:34:17 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4069 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-15a-accepting-compliments/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-beauty-to-open-your-heart/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-beauty-to-open-your-heart/#comments Mon, 10 Oct 2011 10:00:31 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6267 The world we live in is full of amazingly beautiful things. Many of them we miss (or at least I miss) because we are wrapped up in our todo list. When we take the time to just look at beauty, bathe in beauty, and absorbe beauty it touches us and tunes us into our emotional core. If we combine beauty with tapping we can transform our heart. Here is an easy example...]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-beauty-to-open-your-heart/feed/ 2 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-for-inspiration-creativity-by-steve-jobs/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-for-inspiration-creativity-by-steve-jobs/#comments Sat, 08 Oct 2011 10:00:52 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6249 As I am sure you are aware last week Steve Jobs died. He was a galvanizing figure to say the least. He was a thought leader and he demanded a lot of himself (and his employes). I always enjoyed his interviews and speeches because there was always nugests of hope, inspiration and challenge. Here are some of my favorite Steve Jobs quote. Are you looking for a great way to start your day on a creative inspired foot? Then just read these and tap along.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-for-inspiration-creativity-by-steve-jobs/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-lift-your-spirits-this-will-make-you-laugh-make-you-feel-better/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-lift-your-spirits-this-will-make-you-laugh-make-you-feel-better/#comments Wed, 05 Oct 2011 10:30:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5978 Jason Kottke described this as: "Two minutes of laughing. If this doesn't make you smile, YOU'RE A MONSTER!" This is awesome to tap to!]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapping-to-lift-your-spirits-this-will-make-you-laugh-make-you-feel-better/feed/ 4 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-14a-taking-risks/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-14a-taking-risks/#comments Mon, 03 Oct 2011 10:29:23 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4065 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/tapalong-14a-taking-risks/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/help-us-out/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/help-us-out/#comments Sat, 01 Oct 2011 10:00:24 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5962 Take 5 minutes to help us improve Tapping Q and A and you will get $15 worth of downloads and the chance to win one of five one-on-one sessions with Gene.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/10/help-us-out/feed/ 6 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/guilty-v-regret/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/guilty-v-regret/#comments Wed, 28 Sep 2011 10:00:49 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=2306 It is very important to spend time doing self-forgiveness work. If we do not forgive ourselves then we are never going to move forward because we are going to be an emotional prisoner to the past. When we refuse to forgive ourselves then it is like we are reliving the past moment over and over again. There are many steps to this process, but one of the concepts I always talk to clients about is the difference between feeling guilty and regretting what happened.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/guilty-v-regret/feed/ 7 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-13a-it-is-a-great-day-to-be-alive/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-13a-it-is-a-great-day-to-be-alive/#comments Mon, 26 Sep 2011 10:24:41 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4061 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-13a-it-is-a-great-day-to-be-alive/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/understanding-what-is-motivating-the-change/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/understanding-what-is-motivating-the-change/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 10:00:50 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=1192 There are many reasons we want to make changes in our life. Often, the greater the perceived reward the greater the motivation we have. Many times there’s more than one reason for making a change. Understanding these reasons can be key to our transformation.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/understanding-what-is-motivating-the-change/feed/ 1 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-12a-seeking-attention/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-12a-seeking-attention/#comments Mon, 19 Sep 2011 10:20:37 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4056 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-12a-seeking-attention/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/advanced-tapping-technique-training/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/advanced-tapping-technique-training/#comments Thu, 15 Sep 2011 10:00:28 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=5868 For the last two months I have putting the finishing touches on a training program I am really proud of. I have taken my favorite advanced tapping techniques and I have put them all in once place. The program has over 10 hours of training and over 15 hours of support audio. Here is a brief list of the main topic: Lesson 1: 13 Foundations to Healing With Tapping That Every Practitioner Should Master Lesson 2: 18 Lessons From 10 Masters of Healing Lesson 3: Hypnotic Patter and Language Lesson 4: Guided Imagery Lesson 5: Parts Work Lesson 6: Age Regression Lesson 7: Time Lines, Forgiveness Work, and Score Boards Oh My! Lesson 8: Meta Models And that doesn't even inclue any of the bonus material. If you are looking to take your tapping to the next level I would encourage you to check this out. Full details. . .]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/advanced-tapping-technique-training/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/bonus-pod-23-how-to-begin-a-tapping-session/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/bonus-pod-23-how-to-begin-a-tapping-session/#comments Wed, 14 Sep 2011 10:00:18 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=6005 One of the nice things about tapping is that we can just jump right in to doing work anytime and anywhere. Even though we can just start I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin we can make sure the tapping time is more effective. To start almost every session (either with clients or when I am tapping on my own) I use these five steps.]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/bonus-pod-23-how-to-begin-a-tapping-session/feed/ 2 Getting Started,How To,Practitioner One of the nice things about tapping is that we can just jump right in to doing work anytime and anywhere. Even though we can just start I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin we can make sure the tapping time is more effective. One of the nice things about tapping is that we can just jump right in to doing work anytime and anywhere. Even though we can just start I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin we can make sure the tapping time is more effective. To start almost every session (either with clients or when I am tapping on my own) I use these five steps. Gene Monterastelli clean 9:32 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-11a-responding-to-emotional-vampires/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-11a-responding-to-emotional-vampires/#comments Mon, 12 Sep 2011 10:16:05 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4051 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-11a-responding-to-emotional-vampires/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/there-is-so-much-i-dont-know-where-to-begin/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/there-is-so-much-i-dont-know-where-to-begin/#comments Sat, 10 Sep 2011 10:00:43 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://www.tappingqanda.com/?p=434 I have a lot of issues that I want to use Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping on, but I don't know where to begin. Should I do the memories chronologically or should I do them is chunks of related issues?]]> http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/there-is-so-much-i-dont-know-where-to-begin/feed/ 0 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-10a-the-things-that-drive-you-crazy-are-your-greatest-teachers-finding-calmness-within-the-storm/ http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-10a-the-things-that-drive-you-crazy-are-your-greatest-teachers-finding-calmness-within-the-storm/#comments Mon, 05 Sep 2011 10:10:20 +0000 Gene Monterastelli http://tappingqanda.com/?p=4046 http://tappingqanda.com/2011/09/tapalong-10a-the-things-that-drive-you-crazy-are-your-greatest-teachers-finding-calmness-within-the-storm/feed/ 2