Tap Along

Saying “I’m sorry” is one of the hardest things to do. We have to admit that we have been wrong. We have to admit that we let others down. As hard as saying “I’m sorry” is needs to be done. For our own healing, for those we have hurt, and to help repair our relationships. Here is a quick TapAlong audio to help you be able to say “I’m sorry”.

Sometimes we can spend so much time and energy taking care of others that we can lose ourselves in the effort. When can get to the place where our identity gets wrapped up in taking care of others. This can be a dangerous way to define ourselves. Here is a short tap along audio to help you see yourself for who you are, not for what you do for others.

One of the hardest phrases for my clients to say is, “I love and accept myself.” (And it can be really hard from me sometimes as well.) There is a feeling of skin crawling that goes along with that phrase. Being able to love our selves is at the heart of healing and transformation. When we love ourselves we are able to be easy with our selves and be easy with the process of healing.

Often times we don’t feel comfortable making our own life easier. We think: Others have it so hard. We should have to work for a good life. It is only worth something if we struggle for it. I have wasted good chances before I would I get easy now?

When we are able to recognize that we are worthy of a better life then we can move to a place where we can start working towards a better life. As long as we think it is something we are not worthy of then we are never going to move forward.

It is fun to watch people intact with a new born. Once they get over their fear of dropping the child everyone just lights up. For some reason we are able to see the goodness in the innocents of the child and we can offer unconditional love very easily.

The idea for this TapAlong can to me while I was doing an interview Brad Yates. Right after I idea hit me I shared it with Brad and he said that he had done the exact thing with his clients before. Here is a great little TapAlong that I hope will help you to experience unconditional love.

Mediocrity asks “Why?” with hesitation. Greatness asks “Why not?” with expectation. – @TheSingleWoman

One of the biggest (and most important) shifts we can make is moving from asking “why?” to asking “why not?” When we do this we are moving from thinking about the place we are stuck and moving to what we can become. This is a powerful transformation. Even when we are not moving towards something that is new and better by simply looking at what is possible we feel like we are moving forward.

There is a lovely (and cheesy) song from my youth by Garth Brooks called “Unanswered Prayers.” The basic premise of the song is the protagonist runs into his teenage girlfriend as an adult. He remembers that as a teen the only thing he prayed for was that he would marry his sweet heart. With the wisdom of age he realize that it turned out for the best that God didn’t answer his prayer….leading the chorus “Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers…”

There are times when we sit down to tap that we have a very clear plan of what issues we want to go after. There is either a specific wound to heal or there is a particular goal to achieve. Other times we just need to make time for ourselves because it is good we are taking the time to care for ourselves, even if there isn’t something specific we need to take care of.

“Never apologize for saying what you feel, because that’s like saying. ‘Sorry for being real’” @livetorque

Sometimes it is very difficult very difficult to share how we feel about something because we know that others are going to react to our feelings in a negative way. When this happens we can feel bad for feeling the way we do and we can feel bad for what we perceive is hurting someone else. Our feelings are our truth. We feel the way we do. We can choose to change these feelings and heal these feelings, but they are what they are. We never have to apologize for how we feel. There are choices we make in response to these feeling that aren’t the best for others and ourselves. We need to be comfortable enough with ourselves to know how we feel because that is our truth in the moment.

Sometimes all we need to do is know what we want to get. By naming it we start to see the path to what we want. It is a great way to start the day or the week by knowing what you want. If we tap while naming what we want, we can start to clear the resistance to those things.