Tap Along

Wayne Dyer said, “When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

I am much more judgment of others than I would like to admit. I think I am a kind person. I think I give others the benefit of the doubt. But there are time that I quickly judge others. I don’t do this because of who they are, but because of who I am. Often when I am judging others it is because they are reminding of something in myself that I don’t like about myself. I don’t like to be judged and I am going to work to not judge.

Here is a short tap along to help us to be less judgmental of other.

It is great that we spend time naming what we want our life to look like. It is wonderful that we create plans for how we are going to get it.

But it is not going to happen the way we planned. It’s just not. There are unexpected things coming. There are details we are going to miss. There are going to be days where we just choose to watch TV instead of doing what we need to do to move forward.

And that is ok.

I am not saying we don’t need to try, but it is okay if we are not perfect. It is good for us to be easy with ourselves when it comes to not being perfect. If we beat ourselves up too much about not being perfect we will make it so we don’t even want to try.

Be easy with yourself. This short tap along audio with help you do just that…Be easy with yourself.

There are times when we just don’t want to step up. It could be because we have nothing left or it could be because we don’t think we can.

Woody Allen is famously quoted as saying “Ninety percent of life is just showing up.” Often times all it takes is up getting moving and started. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Most of the time it doesn’t even have to be good. Just starting is enough. It gets the ball rolling, it get the juices flowing, and it gets us heading in the right direction.

Here is a short tap along audio when you are feeling stuck and can’t move forward.

There are times where it is very hard to be who we want to be because it goes against what others are doing or what others say they expect of us. Here is a short tap along audio to help you feel comfortable inside your own skin and your choices.

Saying “I’m sorry” is one of the hardest things to do. We have to admit that we have been wrong. We have to admit that we let others down. As hard as saying “I’m sorry” is needs to be done. For our own healing, for those we have hurt, and to help repair our relationships. Here is a quick TapAlong audio to help you be able to say “I’m sorry”.

Sometimes we can spend so much time and energy taking care of others that we can lose ourselves in the effort. When can get to the place where our identity gets wrapped up in taking care of others. This can be a dangerous way to define ourselves. Here is a short tap along audio to help you see yourself for who you are, not for what you do for others.

One of the hardest phrases for my clients to say is, “I love and accept myself.” (And it can be really hard from me sometimes as well.) There is a feeling of skin crawling that goes along with that phrase. Being able to love our selves is at the heart of healing and transformation. When we love ourselves we are able to be easy with our selves and be easy with the process of healing.

Often times we don’t feel comfortable making our own life easier. We think: Others have it so hard. We should have to work for a good life. It is only worth something if we struggle for it. I have wasted good chances before I would I get easy now?

When we are able to recognize that we are worthy of a better life then we can move to a place where we can start working towards a better life. As long as we think it is something we are not worthy of then we are never going to move forward.

It is fun to watch people intact with a new born. Once they get over their fear of dropping the child everyone just lights up. For some reason we are able to see the goodness in the innocents of the child and we can offer unconditional love very easily.

The idea for this TapAlong can to me while I was doing an interview Brad Yates. Right after I idea hit me I shared it with Brad and he said that he had done the exact thing with his clients before. Here is a great little TapAlong that I hope will help you to experience unconditional love.

Mediocrity asks “Why?” with hesitation. Greatness asks “Why not?” with expectation. – @TheSingleWoman

One of the biggest (and most important) shifts we can make is moving from asking “why?” to asking “why not?” When we do this we are moving from thinking about the place we are stuck and moving to what we can become. This is a powerful transformation. Even when we are not moving towards something that is new and better by simply looking at what is possible we feel like we are moving forward.