Q&A

For the last few months I have been blessed to be spending my Monday and Wednesday mornings in the local county jail helping out with the Advanced Anger Management class. It has been an amazing experience. I have learned so much from the class. These lessons are not limited to how to best use or teach tapping, but I have also learned lots of lessons about life. Here are a few of the lessons I have learned from working with the guys.

I know that I need to spend time tapping on my issues, but I can’t seem to get myself to do it. After the fact (of not tapping) I feel a lot worse because I haven’t done the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)/tapping that I know works. Is there any way I can get over my block about sitting down to tap?

I am spending a great deal of time and energy worrying a about a number of issues. This is consuming so much of my energy, but I most of the issue are really no big deal. How do I deal with the fact I am spending so much on something that is no big deal?

I’ve noticed a patter in my life that is just like my parents and I can’t seem to tap it away. Is there something special I need to do when dealing with issues that I have picked up from my parents?

In real terms, what does it actually look like when I start making changes in my life with EFT?

I have read a number of your articles. I love the fact that you often give tapping phrases to go along with the info, but you don’t give them in a way that I am used to seeing tapping phrases. Why don’t you use the phrase “even though I…” while tapping on the KC point and why don’t you list tapping points with the tapping phrases?

I am looking for help with emotions. I have seen and looked at a couple of specific emotions (anger, depression, etc.), but my problem is that mine are completely blocked off…I feel NONE. The root cause is from my father telling me as a child that men do not display emotions (cry or laugh were his actual words) and any time I gave any type of an emotional display I was punished…what I am looking for is some help clearing this block. What can I do?

I deal with anger all of the time and because I deal with it so much I don’t know where to start. Where can I begin?

Here is a great little tool when you don’t know where or how to start with any emotion (not just anger). This is also a great tool to use when you are teaching someone to tap on his or her own because it will also create phrase to tap along to. For this reason I have found it best to use this like a work sheet and write out each of the steps.

Lately I have been having a lot of trouble with anger. I am able to do some tapping for it, but it isn’t giving me total relief and it is coming back again and again. Do you have any thoughts on how I can tap for this?

I have read a lot of articles on tapping/EFT and procrastination. Almost every article talks about the first thing you should do is to name what could go wrong or what is the penalty for taking the action. I can see that if you cleared the emotional charge around these pitfalls how it could help you to move forward. The problem I have is I have no idea why I don’t want to do these tasks. I know they are important. I know they are needed. I know they will improve my life. I can’t figure out why, even on a subconscious level, why I think these are bad steps for me to take. How else can I use tapping to get through this procrastination?