Podcast

I am asked all the time, “Do I need to say the phrases out loud?”

It is not matter of need. It is a matter of what is helpful. The words are not magic, but they can make all the difference. Check out this very short audio to here how words can transform.

I had a really interesting conversation with one of my clients this week about goals. It is obviously that having goals are important (multiple studies have proven this), but goals have their limits. If we become to transfixed on the goal with can miss other greatness. If we only focus on the goal itself we can lose our passion. To me there is something much more important than the goal.

It is why you want this goal. Listen to how I the “why” of the goal can make all the difference.

It is important to remember that forgiveness is primarily about our health, well being, and healing. We often think it is about the person we need to forgive. To be honest, the person we need to forgive isn’t thinking about us and they aren’t thinking about how they wronged us. We are the ones who are stuck in this.

Here is a quick explanation of how I approach forgiveness (and it inclues a some tapping you can do right now to feel better).

One of the nice things about tapping is that we can just jump right in to doing work anytime and anywhere. Even though we can just start I have found that if we give some thought to how we begin we can make sure the tapping time is more effective. To start almost every session (either with clients or when I am tapping on my own) I use these five steps.

When I work with clients I like to teach them practical tools so that they are not dependent on our client sessions for progress. I want them to be able to continue to move forward on their. There are two tools that I teach the most because I think they are 1) very easy to do. 2) very versatile and 3) very powerful. (I will share the other tool in a future podcast.)

The tool “About, To, and As If” is a great way to deal with emotions around any relationship. The tool can be used for close friends and family or with people you have never met before. It can be used for people you have a contentious relationship with and it can be used with people who you want a better life for. You can do the whole tool in three minutes. or use it for a full hour.

Let’s be honest: Tapping/EFT looks weird when you do it, sounds weird when you explain it, and really is just plain weird. At least once a week as I explaining the work I do and how much I love tapping someone will start to look at me like I have three heads and slowly start creeping away.

In any endeavor that we do it is important to have a community of support around us. In these communities we have the opportunity to learn from each other, support each other, and (most importantly) laugh with each other.

In the Baltimore area (which is where I live) Steve Carter has done an amazing job in creating just this type of community. The community he has created is from everyone from full time practitioners to people who are just interested in finding way the live health and happier lives. It started very small and over the last few years has not only grown in numbers, but it has also in the quality of support the community provides.

From my point of view the opposite of love is not hate, but instead fear. Fear is a very powerful force. It is very primal and is going to over ride most other emotions an thoughts. In this interview I talk with Colleen Flanagan about the many different faces of fear and how it can be at the root of many other issues. We spend a great deal of time talking about 5 distinct types of fear that can be used as lens to understand many of our deeper issues.

Stress is one of the biggest issues of monder life. I think it is talked about so much that some times we tune it out. We need to keep our eye on how stress affects us day to day. Tapping for stress is easy to do and is much like brushing your teeth. You need do a little bit everyday to make lasting change. In this interview I chat with Louise Woods about the impact of stress on the body and some simple things that you can do right now to improve your mood and your health.

As more time passes few and few people are aware of the roots of tapping as we know it. Emotional Freedom Techniques as presented by Gary Craig build upon the foundations of Thought Field Therapy. In this interview I chat with Joanne Callahan the co-developer of Thought Field Therapy with her husband Roger Callahan. Joanne has many great insights into not only how Thought Field Therapy came to be created and how we can add the tools and techniques of TFT to our daily tapping.

We also spend time talking about one of Joanne’s passions tapping for trauma (both big and small).

Doing this interview was particularly special to me. My guest Brad Yates was the person who first introduced me to Tapping/EFT. In this spirited conversation we talk about the importance of self-love, the obstacles to loving ourself, and what we can do with tapping to improve our view of ourselves.

I know we talk a lot about self love and self acceptance when it comes to tapping. It is right there in the set up phrase, “I love and accept myself.” Even with that being the case it is still one of the issues for my clients (and to be honest for myself) that we struggle with most and it is the topic we are least likely to tap for.