I know that I can use EFT to help me get what I want in my life, but I don’t know how. Do you have any suggestions?
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So far we have named what we didn’t want, named what we do what, and started to get clear of the emotional blocks that are preventing us from moving forward. There is one final step. We need to take action.
Often when the idea of getting what we want is presented it is oversimplified.
“Just think about what you want and you will get it. It’s really that simple.”
But without action nothing happens. I can spend hours thinking and dreaming about the most beautiful amazing sandwich ever made, but if I don’t open my eyes and take some action I will just sit quietly in my living room slowly starving.
It is certainly possible for a great sandwich to arrive with little effort in a way I never dreamed, taste like nothing I have ever had before, and cost me nothing, but usually I need to do something first.
I need to act. This might seem to be the most obvious step, but somehow we often miss this step (or as we talked about in the last step, there are compelling reasons for us not to take this step).
I know how hard it is to take action to get what we want. As we talked about in step three, there can be many penalties for taking action. We could fail, be unsatisfied, or make the situation worse.
These possibilities often make action steps daunting. In step three we named many underlying unspoken fears. If we take the time to apply Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to these worries, taking action will be much easier because fears have subsided and resistance has melted away.
Now it’s time to consider what type of action you want to take. Not all actions will effectively lead you toward your goal.
We’ve been using the example of job satisfaction in this series of articles. Does this mean that since you’ve cleared your emotional blocks that it’s time to walk into your boss’s office and quit today? Maybe. Maybe not.
There are a number of ways that you can make changes to improve your job situation. Maybe because you have a better sense of what you need from your job and feel more confident to speak up for yourself you can negotiate a change at your current job. You also might be in a situation where you are supporting a family and it would be impractical to quit your job without having a new source for a paycheck.
So how do we know which is the right action to take? To be honest there is no way to “know” with 100% certainty which is the right action to take (at least I haven’t found it so), but there are times where I have felt inspired to take a certain action. This inspiration is not so much about believing the action will lead me to a definite, expected outcome. It’s more a case of feeling it is the right action to make now because it matches my new vision minus the limitations, or blocks, that once existed.
Let me explain.
I believe deep at my core is a still small voice of inspiration. This voice is never quiet. It is constantly speaking the truth of who I am. It sees past all of my worries, fears, and doubts. All of the emotional blocks we cleaned up in step three have no effect on this small voice. As it speaks the truth, it constantly encourages me to move closer and closer to who I am truly meant to be.
When we have all the “noise” of the emotional blocks running through our heads (for example, ”You can’t do that.” “What is your family going to think?” “You are going to fail again.” “You don’t deserve better.”), it’s very difficult to hear the still small voice of inspiration.
Once all the noise is quieted, we are more able to hear this still small voice. Then ideas, thoughts, and inspirations start floating to the forefront of our minds. We begin to see opportunities we didn’t see before, and progress comes easier to us.
I truly believe all of these opportunities and inspiration have always been there, but now we are able to see them.
For many of us it’s difficult to trust the inspiration that bubbles up inside. You might be asking yourself, “How can I tell the difference between some hair-brained scheme that gets me in trouble and true inspiration?”
For me, discerning between the two has been a learned skill. The more I trust my intuition, the more things works out easily, and the more I trust my intuition.
I have also added a tapping routine to being open to true inspiration in my life. It goes something like this:
I know a part of me is guiding me to my higher self…a part of me is only speaking the truth about who I am at my core…who I am in my very nature…I am very happy I have this still small voice guiding me…but there are times it is very hard for me to hear this voice…or to trust this is the part that is leading me forward…any block I have to hearing or trusting this voice…I now name it…thank it for trying to protect me…and let it go…I give myself permission to trust the wisdom that is inside me…as I move through my day I give this still small voice permission to speak up and guide…I know I am in full control and can make any choice I want…I am just looking for guidance…bring the guidance to me in unusual and unexpected ways…because if this happens I will be more likely to recognize where the inspiration is coming from…this will make me more willing to trust this inspiration in the future…I give myself permission to make the hard choices…in big and small ways…to make changes to my life today [How to use these tapping phrases]
When I start my day like this I am more likely to be open to the still small voice guiding me to better things.
It is possible for us to radically change our lives for the better. EFT can be a great tool in achieving these changes. Before we can make changes to our life we need to know how we want to change our lives. Often it is easier to name what we don’t want in our lives than what we do want. Once we have named how we would like to change our lives, it is important to clear out the emotional blocks that are preventing us from making these changes. Even when we have a very clear picture of how we would like our lives to change and have very compelling reasons to make these changes, it can be very hard to make these changes because of these emotional blocks. Finally, as the emotional blocks melt away, it becomes possible for us to take direct action, not just mind action. Because we have cleared out the noise that comes along with emotional blocks, we are able to hear the still voice of inspiration leading us to live as we truly are.